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Coping Skills

Understanding Emotional Sensitivity: Survey Results, Part 2

Thank you to the 1,439 people who responded to our second survey. Your answers show the many similarities and differences among emotionally sensitive people and help increase our understanding.

Sometimes just knowing that others have the same experiences as you can be helpful, and I appreciate your time and thoughtful responses.

Coping Skills and Strategies

How do the emotionally sensitive cope with their intense feelings? What a variety...
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Coping Skills

Growing Up Emotionally Sensitive: Survey Results

Most of the people who identified themselves as emotionally sensitive and completed the second survey were women ( percent) between the ages of 40 to 60 (51 percent) with 29 percent between 25 to 40.

Most were college graduates (37 percent). Over 60 percent of those who responded to the survey said they hide their emotional sensitivity so others do not know the intensity of their emotions.

Many consider themselves flawed...
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Coping Skills

Using Creativity to Develop Coping Skills



Emotionally sensitive people are often artistic. Being artistic usually means having a strong appreciation of the senses, and information taken in through seeing, hearing, touching and tasting. They may also have a love of movement, such as dance.

The emotionally sensitive person may have an active imagination and create works of visual art or spend time writing. They are often passionate about helping others.

These attributes are gifts, and can also be ways to cope with...
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Coping Skills

Why Men Don’t Ask for Directions

According to a study funded by the Department of Transportation, about 40 percent of the time people spend driving and 20 percent of the miles we drive are due to "navigational failures."

That's a polite way of saying the drivers were lost (Hallinan 2009).

Many would guess that most of those miles driven due to being lost are because men refuse to ask directions. Many women reading this...
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Borderline Personality Disorder

Learning to Trust Yourself Through Mindfulness

Emotionally sensitive people sometimes have difficulty trusting themselves. There's often good reason for this; when someone has intense emotions, she can't be sure how she will react in different situations with various people.

Most emotionally sensitive people have experiences in which they've reacted emotionally in ways they wish they hadn't. Maybe they feel embarrassed or ashamed of the way they've behaved in the past and fear repeating that experience. Often they can't...
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Borderline Personality Disorder

Letting Go of Judgments

The cost of judging is quite high, particularly for emotionally sensitive people. Think how you would live your life if you weren't afraid of being judged, either by yourself of others?

Judging and fear of being judged often keeps people in a trap - an emotional jail. Instead of living your life the way you would love to, you live safely, doing what is acceptable, so...
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Borderline Personality Disorder

Judging, Judging, Judging


Most people have multiple ways of judging themselves, and often that involves comparing themselves to others. Maybe you have a role-model in mind, a person you think has it all together. Maybe you choose the best of several other people to compare yourself to--the role model for your professional life is different than the person you look up to in your personal life, and the person you admire for her mothering...
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Coping Skills

25 Suggestions for Living a Contented Life, Part 2

In the last post, I listed twelve suggestions for managing more intense emotions and living a contented life. Today's post has the remaining thirteen. There are many more ideas that are not listed.

When you're feeling upset, it's difficult to problem-solve or think of what actions might help. Keeping a list of what works for you could be an important step for coping successfully.  It's also true that building strong basics in...
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Borderline Personality Disorder

25 Suggestions for Living a Contented Life by Managing Emotions, Part 1

Emotionally sensitive people react to events quickly and with intense emotions, and then have difficulty getting their emotional reactions to subside. Finding ways to manage emotions effectively can decrease the pain they experience.

Below are some suggestions for coping with intense emotions.

1. Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness helps reduce anxiety and stress for everyone. Consider a way to practice mindfulness everyday that is easy...
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