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Archives for June, 2012

Dialectical Behavior Therapy

Living Your Values

Living a values-based life is not an easy goal. You get up in the morning, you've got tasks to do. Sometimes you just do tasks without considering how you are allocating your time.  Sometimes you just keep going all day until you are done, then fall into bed exhausted. Often it seems there isn't enough time to think about living your life with meaning or putting your energy into what you believe...
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Borderline Personality Disorder

Understanding Shame

Understanding emotions, being able to observe them in ourselves, and knowing the information they give us is an important part of living effectively. For example, fear tells us to take action or freeze to protect ourselves. When fear is based on true facts versus imagined or misinterpreted information, that message to self-protect can be lifesaving. That message is perfectly clear -- you are in danger.

Sometimes, though, the message our emotions are...
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Coping Skills

Compassion Fatigue

Do you ever feel like you simply can't listen to another word about a difficult experience or loss? You may be experiencing compassion fatigue.

Therapists, nurses, doctors, nannies, childcare workers, nursing home caregivers and other people who focus on helping on a regular basis often experience compassion fatigue. Listening to heartbreak and caring about the troubles of others can be stressful and emotionally tiring.

The emotionally sensitive, who are keenly aware of the emotions...
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Emotionally Sensitive Person

Gifts of Being Emotionally Sensitive

The emotionally sensitive experience emotions quicker, more intensely, and for a longer period of time than those who are not emotionally sensitive. Emotional Sensitivity ranges on a continuum from being somewhat more sensitive than others to be being so sensitive that emotions make it difficult for the person to function.

Research on the full range of emotional sensitivity has not been done. An emotionally sensitive person might or might not be a highly sensitive...
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Emotion Regulation

Mindfulness of The Thoughts Attached to Your Mood

Remember the last time you were upset or depressed?  Try to remember what that time was like for you. What thoughts did you have? Maybe you believed life was miserable, or that you were beyond hope.

Now think of a time when you were happy or content. Perhaps that would be now. According to Siegel in "The Mindfulness Solution," your thoughts are likely to be more positive.

We probably all know that our thoughts are dark when we...
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Borderline Personality Disorder

Relationship Patterns

Emotionally sensitive people love intensely and fiercely, just as they experience most emotions. They can be wonderful in relationships, the most exciting and loving people you could imagine.

When emotionally sensitive people find someone to love, they are often fearful of losing that person in some way. They fear the one they love changing and not loving them back, or maybe that once the person they love realizes who they really are, they will leave.

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Emotion Skills

Trusting Your Intuition

Intuitive thinking is defined as the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning. The root of the word means to guard or protect. Emotionally Sensitive people are generally believed to be more intuitive than most.

That is true in my experience, though I do not know of research that addresses this possibility.

Acting for Reasons We Can't Explain

Part of intuition is that we are able to learn and act on rules and information...
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Coping Skills

Intuitive Thinking

"The only real valuable thing is intuition." --Albert Einstein
Most people have experienced  "knowing" that they are in danger, that someone is lying, that someone they've met will be the love of their life, or that they should turn left at the next stop light to get to where they are going.

They also "know" a situation will work out okay or that they shouldn't...
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Emotion Skills

Mindfulness: An Antidote for Avoidance

In his book "The Mindfulness Solution," Ronald Siegel, PsyD, defines mindfulness as awareness of present experience with acceptance. He also says mindfulness is a particular attitude toward experience or way of relating to life that holds the promise of both alleviating our suffering and making our lives rich and meaningful.

Practicing mindfulness does this through focusing on our moment-to-moment experience, and giving direct...
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