Abusive Realtionships

You Are Not Your Illness

Recently I shared a post on The Lithium Chronicles about traits that are associated with antisocial personality disorder, and things got nasty quickly. People often message the page asking for information and I do my best to provide that information for them, remember I'm not a doctor, but I do know a thing or two about mental illness. I'm getting off point. The nastiness came from a few people, who stated that they are sick and tired of being labeled, and I get it, but this is a conversation that needs to be had.
First of all, you are not your illness. I'm going to say that again for the ones that may not have heard that the first time. You are not your illness, but we have names for illnesses for very specific reasons and I'm going to try to break some of those reasons down now

Abusive Realtionships

Learning To Love Yourself

I just had the most amazing weekend with my siblings and their families. We clocked hours by the fire reminiscing about our childhood while we watched all of our children playing together. Overseeing all of this – and possibly having even more fun than we were – was my father and stepmother. We laughed and told old stories and made some wonderful new memories. At one point during our weekend my Stepmom and I were talking about that point in your life when you wake up one day and finally realize that you just don't care what others think of you and how wonderful it truly is.
We weren't talking about being rude or insensitive by any means, but that realization that what other people think of you really is none of your business. Once you fully grasp this, your life will be so much better for it, because instead of stressing about how others perceive you, you can start using that energy to make sure you like yourself. Because at the end of the day, your opinion of yourself is the only one that really does count.

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Celebrate The Small Victories

There are times when our illnesses bring us to the lowest points and it's during these times when I find myself fighting to stay afloat. I can't tell you how many times I have cancelled plans with friends at the last minute because anxiety or depression had its hold on me. For the most part my friends understand; they've chosen to educate themselves about my illness and are familiar with what sets me off. And while they are usually very considerate when I do bail on them, there was one person who was horrible to me when my anxiety or swings got the best of me. That person was me.

Alternative Therapy

No Sex Drive – Symptom or Side Effect?

I know that for many of us the loss of our sex drive is a really big deal, whether it’s gone because of symptoms from our illness or because of side effects from medications used to treat our illness it’s just – gone. And that can bring up a new body of bothersome, if not terrible feelings about us in general.

Some of us are still a bit reserved when we talk – or don’t talk – about sex, as we have this idea ingrained into us that those thoughts are private and should be left alone, but I’d like to take a look at some of the reasons that many of us struggle with loss of sex drive and how to get that back.

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Suicides may be Linked to Ashley Madison Hack

A little under a week ago hackers calling themselves The Impact Team dumped over 30 million Ashley Madison clients' personal information onto the Dark Web. This is being called one of the largest data breaches in the world. As of today there have been two suspected, yet still unconfirmed, suicides as a result of this breach.


Back to School Bullies

It's that time of year again; it's time to head back to school. And while many kids are thrilled to get back into the swing of things, there are quite a few that are dreading the upcoming school year; sadly my oldest daughter is one of the thousands of children who are apprehensive to return to class – she's nine years old. Toward the end of the last school year my little one had the awful experience of becoming the victim of bullying, and it destroyed her self-esteem and confidence. She would cry every day after school while telling me what happened that day. In the mornings before school she would become nauseous and filled with anxiety, terrified about what kind of torment she would face that day.
It would make sense that in a world where we have been flooded with an overwhelming number of stories of young people taking their own lives because one of the factors was that they were the victims of bullying, school administrators would be doing more to help their students, but sadly too many of our kids fall through the cracks.


Bipolar Disorder and The Mixed Features

The day before yesterday I started to get agitated and irritable – excessively. There have been a some minor things that have been occurring over the past week that have contributed to me becoming a little rattled, but nothing seemed extraordinary enough to set off the chain of events such as the one I am currently experiencing. As of yesterday morning I am officially sitting right in the middle of a bipolar disorder mixed episode, or mixed features of a cycle
This, my friends, is the absolute worst place for me to be right now. But, this isn't my first rodeo and I've called on every last one of my supports, so everything is going to be just fine. Knowing that everything is going to be just fine while still feeling awful is not entirely helpful. Our minds are very powerful things, and while I like to think that I know exactly what is going on with me at all times, bipolar disorder likes to remind me that this isn't always the case.

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Back to School Sanity Savers

It's that time of year again when my family starts to transition from lazy summer days and spontaneous family adventures to set routines and fixed bedtimes. In a couple of short weeks my kids will be heading back to school and while the structure is great for them, it's most beneficial to me and my mental health. Every year I spend a few weeks easing all of us back into our schedules to lessen the amount of upheaval the home experiences. And while this may seem silly to some, I have learned that it is critical to keeping my balance.

Abusive Realtionships

Abuse Does Not Require a Diagnosis

I've read a lot of articles lately regarding narcissists and the damage they leave in their wake. I have read everything from how to spot a narcissist to how to escape a narcissist, and while all of them have been pretty informative and well written, I haven't yet come across one that touches on the possibility that not every narcissist is a narcissist, or one that states that you don't need a diagnosis to recognize abuse, so I thought I'd write one myself. Is that something a narcissist would do?

Abusive Relationships

Embracing Men’s Mental Health

Robin Williams' tragic suicide, one year ago today, sparked a much needed conversation surrounding men's mental health and suicide. According to the World Health Organization, someone around the globe dies by suicide every 40 seconds. In the year 2000, 815,000 people lost their lives to suicide. This was more than double the amount of people killed as a direct result of armed conflict. In the year 2000, the suicide rate was ...