5 thoughts on “Are You Too Emotionally Invested?

  • July 25, 2015 at 3:52 pm

    An awesome blog entry. I’ve found myself investing myself in relationships that were off-balance. My solution was to not only sever those relationships but to also avoid making new relationships, because I knew I’d just end up repeating past mistakes. When you can’t recognize that you’re in the process of making a mistake, like becoming involved in a lop-sided relationship, it’s best to not get into any relationships in the first place.

    • July 25, 2015 at 5:25 pm


      Hello my friend. I am sorry that you’ve been burned, haven’t we all, but you know what I’m going to say here…I don’t think it’s healthy to give up on making relationships all together. You made a very good and valid point, “when you can’t recognize…” but when you can! If you never open yourself up, you can miss out on so much. You and I are going to have to agree to disagree on this one, or I’m going to have to sway you into seeing things my way 😀

      Thanks for reading and commenting, My Friend.


      • July 25, 2015 at 5:44 pm

        Sway me then, Nicole!!! LOL!!! But you’ll need a mighty big hammer, my skull is pretty thick!!!

  • March 9, 2016 at 7:28 pm

    Nicole, wonderful entry…am going through a relationship/ divorce with kids crisis here and totally losing my wits…your article made some good and important points which I will read again tomorrow after I am sober.

    Maybe I need to put myself through some psychiatric care also!


  • April 4, 2016 at 3:08 am

    Thanks so much for this blog post. It’s exactly the reminder I needed. I get way too emotionally invested in new friends and lovers too quickly, and more often than not I get hurt. I am so addicted to that feeling of connecting with someone. But I need to recognise my role in that, and perhaps my attraction to people who are emotionally unavailable – it’s like they are some kind of challenge! I do like a challenge, and have a bit of a saviour complex.
    I’ve just signed up to a dating service, and I am going to use the opportunity to not only meet some new people, but practise pacing myself!


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