5 thoughts on “Sometimes Sorry Isn’t Enough

  • July 1, 2015 at 10:56 am

    GOD KNOWS I HAVE MADE MISTAKES IN THE PAST, BUT THAT HAS CHANGED EXCEPT IN DEALING WITH ONE DAUGHTER THAT I FAILED TO LOVE AND SHE IS NOW HURTING HERSELF, DOING THINGS THAT SHE CANNOT ADMIT TO, SHE IS VERY DISHONEST AND MAKES NO EXCUSES FOR HER ACTIONS SO THIS SITUATION IS STILL NOT SOLVED UNTIL SHE FACES THE TRUTH, MAKES THE SITUATION UNSOLVABLE,

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    • July 1, 2015 at 11:02 am

      Hello Louise

      I am terribly sorry to read this. I do hope that your daughter finds help for herself. In the meantime I hope that you’re taking care of yourself, speaking with a therapist. It’s difficult to say the least when we have hurt people and they find unhealthy ways to cope. Not only are we left with that guilt, but the concern for our loved ones. A trust is broken, but eventually I believe that it can be repaired if both people try. It’s not that easy, and I’m not minimizing your pain, or hers, I’m hoping for the best. Please take care of yourself, and I hope that she will start doing the same. All the best to you both.

      Nicole

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  • July 1, 2015 at 1:53 pm

    What do you do if you have apologized – and done all of the soul-searching you know how to do to understand what you might have done – and the other person won’t talk with you to help work things out? This person is a family member (my adult son, actually).

    Thank you!

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    • July 1, 2015 at 2:04 pm

      HI Michelle

      First of all I want to tell you that I think it’s wonderful that you have done the apologizing and soul-searching that you have stated, that’s huge and healing for you in itself. Like I said in the blog, once you have done everything to make amends and change that behavior, it is now on your son to decide whether or not he will choose to work with you to heal the relationship. I wish I had some enlightening words to “fix” the situation, but in reality it’s on him now.

      I understand how painful that is for you, I’ve gone through a similar situation. My sister and I didn’t speak for almost two years because of my actions. It was not for my lack of trying to communicate. After about six months of her not answering my calls, texts, knocks on her door, I had to let her go and heal herself. She kept up with my progress through our family, and when she was ready, she came to me. We have been stronger ever since. She needed to see that I had changed, and she needed to see that it was for real and not just a week here and there.

      This may not be the same circumstance as you and your son, but it may give you hope. You can’t force someone to forgive you. I would suggest speaking with a therapist to help you get through. Keep talking. All the best to you.

      Nicole

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  • July 2, 2015 at 6:09 pm

    I loved this article. I am praying for a full reconciliation with my oldest daughter. I appreciate your honesty and willingness to share your story!

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