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Happily Ever After: A Furry Tail Romance

It was love at first fight. Contentedly single and the sole object of my owner’s attention, I resented the arrival of a tiny kitty princess in my castle. But even as she clawed me while I bit her tail, I knew we were destined to live happily ever after.

Within a week of our meeting, I fall in love with that kitty princess. Oh Penelope, Penelope . . . her fluffy white coat, tantalizing blue eyes and graceful walk. She stops traffic when she walks down the street. Exalted above all tabbies she enchants me with her musical purr. I don’t sleep, I don’t chase mice, I don’t even eat kitty treats. All I do is fantasize about Penelope. Just the sound of her name lulls me into a state of blissful reverie as I trace a heart with our initials in her litterbox.

Penelope, however, rejects my advances. After weeks of sauntering past me with her nose and tail in the air, I grow despondent. Finally, upon my offer of a savory piece of salmon that I snagged from my owner’s dinner, she finally allows me the privilege to cat walk with her. Over the next few months, we walk, talk and purr together. I finally win her love, and we declare our mated bond forever and ever.

Truth be told, we do not always live happily ever after; our Furry-tale romance sometimes resembles a fury-tail rivalry. However, we somehow manage to rekindle our deep love for each other. Here we offer a few pieces of relationship advice for you on this Valentine’s Day.

  1. Maintain Boundaries

My beloved, Penelope and I mark our territories. We each use our own food dish, litter box, fleece blanket and hiding place. This saves a lot of cat fights.

  1. Share Often

At the same time, we share special places, like our favorite window seat.  There we cuddle together and soak up warm, sunny rays for hours as we cat nap.

  1. Play Daily

Whether we chase after a laser light or bat toy mice around the floor, we delight in friendly competition. Plus, we burn off a little nervous energy.

  1. Indulge in a Bit of Catnip Together

Live it up a little and have a some fun. Please Catnip responsibly.

  1. Fight Fair

We fight, oh catty do we fight! But when one of us exposes our tummy, the other retreats. We know when enough is enough.

  1. Groom Each Other

After a hard day snoozing on the couch, we take time to groom each other, especially on our backs which are hard to reach.

  1. Communicate Openly

Okay, we confess to being sneaky sometimes. Of course, we hide after knocking over a lamp that shatters on the floor.  We want our owner to believe it was the draft from the front door.  Who can blame us? For the most part, we express our feelings – one way or the other.

  1. Be Faithful

We don’t have much choice because we’re house cats. Don’t tempt us in the wild though.

  1. Happily Ever After

Purr together each day.  A good way to ease stress is find simple things for which we are grateful. We appreciate our cozy fleece blankets, a sunny view from a second-story window, our favorite cat treats, quite time being petted, our toys, a clean litterbox and sleeping 18 hours a day.

Hope you can benefit from our instinctive wisdom on this Valentine’s Day.  Follow these tips so you and your beloved can live happily ever after – or close to it.


Image taken by Jessica Loftus


Happily Ever After: A Furry Tail Romance

Jessica Loftus

Jessica Loftus has worked as a licensed clinical psychologist and national certified career counselor for more than 20 years. She currently offers counseling sessions via telehealth in Illinois. Her website,, outlines steps for making a career decision. details. See her retired blog, "Pet Ways to Ease Stress,"

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APA Reference
Loftus, J. (2019). Happily Ever After: A Furry Tail Romance. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 27, 2020, from


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