Role Reversal: Caring for a Parent as an Adult Child

Breaking my Silence:

It’s been a challenging season for my mom and me. We’ve found ourselves going through many changes and challenges--together. She has ventured into the realm of cognitive decline, health failure, and physical limitations while I’ve experienced what it’s like to grow older both in mind and soul as I adapt to the ever-changing reality of her not going back to the mom of old. I’ve begun to accept this and, let me tell...


How Hugging my Mom is Helping Me Show Her Compassion

Dear Mom,

This is for you. Thank you for loving the unlovable in me and always believing in me even when I didn't believe in myself. I love you and appreciate you.


“If you're angry at a loved one, hug that person. And mean it. You may not want to hug - which is all the more reason to do so. It's hard to stay angry when someone shows they love you, and that's precisely what happens when...


The Naughty Little Word that will Change Your Life

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Seriously, that's the naughty word.

"Why is it so naughty?" you might be asking yourself.  To me, it's naughty because every time I've tried to use it or have successfully used it,  I've experienced feelings akin to when I first learned colorful words that begin with 'f' and other "sentence enhancers" as Patrick Star calls them on Spongebob.

It's hard to set boundaries; every time you do, you will...


When the Tears Come, Let Them

Men don't cry.

It should be what I talked about when I wrote The Greatest Lie You've Ever Been Told.

Since the time I was incarcerated, I've made it a goal to show the world a different me.

The only problem with showing the world a different me is just that--it's a show.

A performer can only perform for so long. An actor can only go that extra mile for so long before the mask falls off and the broken,...


How Losing My Freedom is Helping Me Find It

left: 1st DUI (April 14, 2014)
right: 2nd DUI (October 14, 2014)

"You can't fix me," Mom said while holding my hand and a single tear running down her eye.

"But, I've tried Mom, dear God have I tried!" I said realizing the power of her words, her stare, and allowing the truth of what she said to wash over me like a...


Friendship Beyond Facebook: Why You Need an Inner Circle

My inner circle

There will be times you feel lonely and that ache burns so deeply inside of you that nothing and nobody in this world can fill it. You are not alone. The beauty of a burden is that it connects you with others who are like-minded and burdened. Remain in this special community of hurting and healing (you define this group) Your heart will thank you.

I've learned over the last...