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Good and Bad Ways to Cope with Depression

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  1. Thank you for sharing this. It has truly helped me see into the recent days of darkness recently. I seem to hit on a deep low about this time of the year. Wish I could pull thru it easier. You seem to be functioning so well by reaching out. And I admire your ability to get walking or working out. Kudos!!
    I come from a family who don’t believe in depression or stress. They actually laugh about it to me. So I find alone basically. And pray so much God must be tired of this widow weeping. Lol. Please keep writing and sharing. God bless.

    • Dear Turtl,
      Thank you for sharing and taking the time to read my writing. It means the world to me anytime anyone takes time out of their day (or night) to read my jumbled, messy, and honest thoughts. I appreciate it and thank you for the kind words. I think that writing and being vulnerable with others helps me help myself. It’s as if the pouring out is a bit cyclical because I pour out and, yet, am refreshed at the same time. It’s why I encourage others to do so, like you have by commenting. I don’t believe God is tired of “this widow weeping”, remember, the book of Lamentations is a book for a reason. I think God understands and sees every tear as a praise because you’re still alive to shed those tears and for that I am thankful. I’ll be thinking of you and pray that you find some support because, I too, know what it can be like to have people mock you for what you cannot control. Much love and blessings.

  2. ** forgive my errors.My thinking is ahead of my writing ability today* lol

  3. I have been on here before, sharing how I wanted to die. I try so hard to not get in the pit but here I am again. When is this gonna end. So pretty outside today, the beach is 10 mts away but my mind and body won’t let me go.
    Its not fair. I raised children thru depression although medicated with xanax, oxy. They turned out great. I am by myself now and older. No one cares. Unless your young. I feel suicide is the answer when your older because you have nothing to offer and your life is almost over anyway. We asre a drain on the government axnd esp.your family. I do believe in God so I hope I go to heaven if I do suicide.

    • Yvonne,
      Thank you for your honest and vulnerable words. I wish I could say I didn’t understand that kind of darkness but, sadly, I do. I will tell you this, the pit is one that I believe we will enter many times. I think the best hope is that we take the light of the outside with us and know that we won’t stay there forever. I understand that thinking of suicide may offer a respite, an escape, a relief from the inescapable pain that comes with depression and darkness, but I ask that you reconsider and seek help. I ask that you seek the help of a medical professional, a crisis hotline, a family member, etc. You have helped your children get to where they are today and I guarantee, they will need you even more as you grow older because with age comes so much wisdom and so much to offer (even if you don’t see it). I also will say this, from my personal beliefs, that God would never punish someone who takes their own life. I don’t believe it, at all, and if this be true, then that is a kind of a God that I refuse to worship because it is not a God of love, a God that fully understands his/her creation because to know what it’s like to be fully human is to know both the highest highs and darkest lows of the human experience. You’ll be in my prayers today. I pray that you seek help and remember all that you have to live for. Just because the darkness speaks and the pit seems deep does no mean you have to listen nor that you will remain there forever. Bless you.

  4. Thank you for the very good article on good and bad ways to cope with depression. I tend to let my hygiene go and not exercise like I should be. I liked you goals to just do 10-20 minutes a day…not too much and should be do-able. The tendency to reach for our medication is something I think about a lot…should I even be reaching for my psych meds. or should I try to be utilizing other methods first? My mantra is “keeping faith (in the future) and perspective”…as I am grateful to have a roof over my head, food in my stomach etc. There are so many worse off than I if I really think about it. Something that is helpful is thinking about those I am attached to….pets, family…being grateful they are in my life and thinking how I would hurt them if I don’t take care of myself. Ultimately, we do our best and live each day as it comes.

    • Bethy,
      Thank you for your kind words and thoughts. I try to make my exercise goals so ridiculous that I can’t help but succeed. It’s not always easy but it’s worth it. I wholeheartedly agree that are so many that are far worse off than we are and am glad to hear that you thinking of those you are attached to helps you keep going and keep living. Thank you again for your thoughts and taking time to read and comment. It means the world. Best to you.

 

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