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Ways To Prioritize Your Relationship

I once worked with a couple that struggled with change. One of the partners really had a hard time sticking to changing their behavior and communication style. They would for a short period of time make positive progress and then relapse.

The other partner struggled with trust due to struggle with commitment to change.

As a counselor who works with couples, I took note of how inconsistency can hurt a relationship and a partner’s ability to maintain long-term trust.

It’s easy to get caught up in the aspects of life that upset us within our relationship. Sometimes we simply overlook the positive moments because we are so clouded by the negative ones.

All relationships should have a set time during the week that is directly focused on evaluation. The purpose of the evaluation is to address what’s not working, to build on what is working, and most importantly to maintain short-term and long-term commitment.

A person’s ability to demonstrate consistency in the relationship can repair or, if you will, rebuild trust and commitment.

Below are questions that you and your partner should spend time exploring.

  1. Communication
    1. Very satisfied
    2. Moderately satisfied
    3. Not satisfied
  2. Conflict resolution
    1. Very satisfied
    2. Moderately satisfied
    3. Not satisfied
  3. The degree of emotional connection
    1. Very satisfied
    2. Moderately satisfied
    3. Not satisfied
  4. The degree of physical connection
    1. Very satisfied
    2. Moderately satisfied
    3. Not satisfied
  5. Openness
    1. Very satisfied
    2. Moderately satisfied
    3. Not satisfied

The goal of the evaluation is to allow you and your partner the opportunity to discuss each of these topics and, when necessary, work to find a solution. A solution simply means, finding satisfaction in the relationship within each of the five core areas.

For questions, you both find a level of being “very satisfied,” take time to understand why. Engage in the practice of communication to develop awareness of what it is that is taking place to provide such a positive response.

In addition, this activity encourages you to practice gratitude, compassion, and appreciation. Expressing these feelings creates an environment that welcomes the change.

You are more than welcome to add sections. In fact, it’s your relationship, I highly encourage couples to take time to add sections that directly speak to their relationship.

This is your relationship. The more work you put in the better the outcome.

This activity is one that should be practiced weekly. The purpose of practicing this activity weekly is to show commitment and allow positive change to take place. If your answers do not change in a week’s time, it is absolutely okay.

The participation in the activity is just one way that promotes individuals to prioritize their relationship. More strategies can be explored here.

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