16 Ways To Practice Radical Acceptance

Have you ever wondered what it really means to accept something? Does such an attitude mean that we give up on the possibility of change for ourselves, other people, or our lives? Is this just an excuse to be a doormat?

Absolutely not. Acceptance, and in particular the term Radical Acceptance, one of the principles of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), is anything but passive. Radical acceptance is a conscious choice, and one that can actually put us...


25 Tips To Get Rid of Overthinking

We have all been bestowed with a brain which, for the most part, is a wondrous creation which enables us to process information, think through our options, and determine how to proceed.

However, at times our mind can seem like our own worst enemy. When we find ourselves overthinking an issue, with our thoughts returning again and again to a past situation or future scenario, we’re likely to needlessly wear ourselves out.

So, it’s in our best interest...


17 Ways To Stay Motivated Over The Long Haul

There is something cunning and treacherous about procrastination. While it feels good in the short run, since we are momentarily spared the possible discomfort involved in pushing ourselves a bit, in the long run procrastination can lead to a type of soul sickness. We begin to doubt (and increasingly so, as the days and weeks progress) our capability to take care of things - ourselves, our loved ones, our health, our

Yes, there are times in...


How To Cope Effectively With Fear

"Always move toward your demons. They take their power from your retreat." (Thom Rutledge)

How does fear show up in your life? Is it that dread of facing the day that causes you to hit the snooze button when your alarm goes off in the morning? Does fear lead you to doubt your abilities and thus keeps you living a boring but “comfortably” familiar lifestyle? Does fear block you from pursuing promising relationships or job opportunities?

Do you...


36 Ways To Challenge Yourself In 2020

Sometimes we need to reboot our lives, much like restarting a frozen computer screen when nothing else will fix the problem. When we're feeling wired and tired, we can slow down long enough to ask ourselves, "Is this depression or depletion?" Frequently it's the latter.

When we've been burning the candle at both ends for too long, things can get jangled up. We become forgetful. We snap at our family over inconsequential issues. The very thought of...


73 More Soul-Searching Questions To Ask Yourself

Self-knowledge is a powerful tool - especially when we combine this knowledge with constructive action. In a recent article, I listed 31 Soul-Searching Questions To Ask Yourself, to help you jumpstart this process. Below are additional questions to assist with gaining a clearer sense of yourself.

If you feel embarrassed that you're not clearer on your priorities, dreams, and feelings, rest assured that you are not alone. Many of us spend a lot of our time and energy concerned...


12 Hints For Dealing With Chronic Illness

Perhaps it’s those pesky migraine headaches, with the accompanying nausea, dizziness, and sensitivity to light, that threaten to incapacitate you on a regular or sporadic basis. Or maybe you struggle with chronic fatigue syndrome, a condition possibly connected with Epstein-Barr virus, that makes even taking a shower exhausting. Or you deal with rheumatic arthritis, an auto-immune illness in which symptoms can flare up and go into remission at seemingly random times.

Trying to manage a long-term health...


17 Possible Reasons Behind Your “Negative Attitude”

Even though we realize that a negative and fault-finding perspective can harm our physical and emotional health, relationships, work performance, and enjoyment of life, it can seem impossible at times to overcome a “bad attitude”. To compound the problem, we may then lambast ourselves for failing to “pull it together”. All this can add up to a sense of hopelessness.

It may help to take an honest and compassionate look at possible reasons why we’re having such...


31 Soul-Searching Questions To Ask Yourself

Happiness means different things to different people. For one person, this might mean a deep romantic connection with one’s spouse. For someone else, happiness might mean close friends on whom one can rely. Or a meaningful job. Or sufficient funds and time to travel the world. Or vibrant health. Or ample time alone to recharge. Or contributing to one’s community. Or good weather.

The key is to figure out what’s most important to you. Not to your...


How to Stop Being A Control Freak

Most of us feel better when we have some degree of control over our lives. After all, feeling on top of things gives us a sense of security and competence. Learning a new skill can increase our self-confidence. Acing an interview and getting the job for which we were vying boosts our morale. Figuring out by ourselves how to fix a computer glitch brings a huge sense of relief.

However, if we need every aspect of our...