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Communication

28 Questions To Ask To Deepen Your Relationships

How well do you really know your spouse? Your best friend? Or your child?

Even if we spend a lot of time with someone, this doesn’t necessarily mean that we understand what makes them tick. If we’re pretty astute, we may think we know where our boyfriend may want to go on vacation, what sort of restaurant our best friend likes, or which movie our son is clambering to see. And maybe we do.

However, such information can...
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Change

10 Questions To Ask Yourself For a Happier 2018

As the New Year approaches, you may be evaluating what has transpired in 2017 and what you’d like to experience in 2018. The following questions may help you to constructively and compassionately consider where you’ve progressed during this year, where you’ve possibly taken some unexpected or unhelpful detours, and where you’d like to go in the New Year.

Try to listen to your intuition and feelings as you look through these questions, rather than quickly answering in...
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Change

Six Ways To Make Psychotherapy More Effective

Entering into psychotherapy can be the beginning of an impactful journey into a more fulfilling life.

Yet often people complicate this process and sabotage their progress due to misconceptions about what therapy entails. Accepting the following truths can help maximize your chances of making your therapy experience more effective.

Accept that growth and change can feel uncomfortable at times. Yes, psychotherapy should offer you hope that things can get better for you, as well as tools to move...
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Change

How Gratitude Can Transform Us and The World

Although the Thanksgiving holiday serves as a good reminder for us to pause and count our blessings, the truth is that gratitude represents an attitude and actions that we can seek to cultivate every day of the year. In addition to improving our relationships with others, expressing our thanks offers many other benefits.

Some quotes and thoughts about gratitude:

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” (William Arthur Ward)

When...
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Change

Coping With Identity Loss: An Athlete’s Life After Sport

Guest Post By Rob Feiner MS, PCCI, PPS

“All I’ve ever known was competition, what the $#@$%*! am I going to do now?!” My old training partner and friend lamented to me after leaving the orthopedic surgeon’s office on a sunny afternoon in the summer of 2006. My friend had sustained his third ACL tear in 3 years. Leaving that Dr.’s office he was delivered the news that he would undergo another full ACL surgery with grueling...
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Communication

Using Mindfulness To Improve Your Relationships

When we hear the word “mindfulness”, many of us think about how being more mindful could benefit our physical health, reduce our anxiety, help us perform better at our job, or deepen our spirituality. Being more mindful can certainly bring about these changes. However, mindfulness can also strengthen our relationships with other people. How does this work?

The three “what” skills of mindfulness are:

Observe

Describe

Participate

Generally, we practice one of the “what” skills at a time, rather than trying...
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Communication

How To Get Along Well With Others

Whether it’s your spouse, in-laws, children, friends, colleagues at work, clients, children, or people you encounter while going about your day, knowing how to get along well with others can greatly enhance your life, as well as the lives of those around you, in both personal and professional arenas.

Healthy interpersonal relationships and a strong social support system are counted among the most important elements in a happy existence. The following are some simple (although not always...
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General

How To Regulate Your Emotions By Developing Your Wise Mind

Have you ever flown off the handle and said or done things you later regret? (Almost all of us have.)

Or have you been so much “in your head”, focused on facts and figures that you lost contact with your feelings or those of other people? (Probably.)

In the first case, you were in what is called Emotion Mind, which is characterized by feelings, reactivity, impulsivity, and difficulty in remaining objective about a situation. In the latter example,...
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Anxiety

15 Steps To Develop Resilience

Why is it that some people bounce back from tragedy or even seem to thrive in the face of persistent hardship, while others collapse and stay down for the count?

Are some people just born with this resilience, defined as “an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change” (Merriam-Webster Dictionary)? Are the rest of us just less adaptive and destined to remain that way?

Or is resilience a skill we can acquire?

Fortunately, there are...
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Emotions

Seven Surprising Facts About Happiness

When asked to name their number one priority, people tend to list personal relationships, good physical health, meaningful employment, wealth, a comfortable home, sufficient leisure time… the list goes on and on.

However, just about everyone would agree that they want to be happy.

At the same time, many of us are concerned that we just don’t have it in us to be happy, or we have misconceptions about what brings happiness. Below are some facts about...
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