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How To Regulate Your Emotions By Developing Your Wise Mind

Have you ever flown off the handle and said or done things you later regret? (Almost all of us have.)

Or have you been so much “in your head”, focused on facts and figures that you lost contact with your feelings or those of other people? (Probably.)

In the first case, you were in what is called Emotion Mind, which is characterized by feelings, reactivity, impulsivity, and difficulty in remaining objective about a situation. In the latter example,...
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Anxiety

15 Steps To Develop Resilience

Why is it that some people bounce back from tragedy or even seem to thrive in the face of persistent hardship, while others collapse and stay down for the count?

Are some people just born with this resilience, defined as “an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change” (Merriam-Webster Dictionary)? Are the rest of us just less adaptive and destined to remain that way?

Or is resilience a skill we can acquire?

Fortunately, there are...
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Emotions

Seven Surprising Facts About Happiness

When asked to name their number one priority, people tend to list personal relationships, good physical health, meaningful employment, wealth, a comfortable home, sufficient leisure time… the list goes on and on.

However, just about everyone would agree that they want to be happy.

At the same time, many of us are concerned that we just don’t have it in us to be happy, or we have misconceptions about what brings happiness. Below are some facts about...
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Emotions

Misconceptions About Happiness



Much has been said -- and misconstrued -- about what constitutes happiness. According to Sonia Lyubomirsky, researcher and author of The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness, happiness is “the experience of joy, contentment, and positive well-being, combined with a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile”. While it’s been estimated that 50% of our happiness is determined by genetics and 10% by circumstances (income, where you live, social status, age, etc.),...
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Emotions

Combating The Cynic Within You

Do you sometimes jump to the conclusion that someone who smiles at you or asks how you’re doing is being fake – or has an ulterior motive? Perhaps you tend to criticize others (or yourself) more frequently than you used to. Or maybe you’ve been pulling back from getting together with friends, believing that they don’t really care about you. Possibly you’re just going through the motions at your job, rather than being excited about going...
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Who Is Meditating, and Why?

With mindfulness meditation gaining so much popularity over the past few decades, and seemingly even more so in the past ten or 15 years, it can seem as if just about everyone has taken up the practice. According to a recent research article (Burke et al, 2017) based on data from the 2012 National Health Interview Survey (NHIS), approximately of adults in the United States had practiced spiritual meditation,...
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Emotions

15 Steps To Manage Anger

Whether it’s that driver on the freeway that cuts you off, a colleague at work who passes you in the hall without acknowledging your “Hello”, or your spouse’s leaving their laundry on the bedroom room, it’s safe to say that anger has paid you a visit lately.

Although we sometimes have a negative association with anger, it’s a natural feeling when we feel threatened. Anger can cause your heart to race, your face...
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Communication

How Our Relationships Affect Our Health and Happiness

Whether you consider yourself a social butterfly, more inclined to one-on-one interactions, or prefer solitude, there’s no denying that the quality of your personal relationships affect your levels of happiness, well-being, and physical health.

We are wired for connection. As the saying goes, “No man is an island”. Consider research done on over 200 undergraduate students by psychologists Ed Diener and Martin Seligman, two giants in the field of...
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Where We’ve Gone Wrong With Mindfulness


Mindfulness is all the rage – and with good reason.

We are faced with an overwhelming, constant input of media, be it from our phones, iPads, laptop, or desktop computers – not to mention the burgeoning possibilities presented to us by cable and network TV, and movie theaters.

Our bosses, colleagues, clients, family, and friends often expect us to be accessible and responsive at all hours.

In addition, the world these days can seem...
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Anxiety

Rules For Life: What Improvisation Teaches Us


What if there were a fun, low-pressure way to reduce your anxiety, build resilience, improve your connection with other people, and strengthen your ability to adapt to life on life's terms?

Welcome to the world of improvisation. Improv, or the art of making something up on the spot, without a script, score, or any sort of planning, or “of composing, uttering, executing, or arranging anything without previous preparation” () is frequently utilized by popular comedians such as...
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