General

Are You Skipping This Crucial Step When Setting Goals?

At the beginning of each calendar year, many of us set lofty goals, with the hope and expectation that with such achievements we’ll be happier. For instance, we vow to lose that extra 20 pounds, go to the gym more often, find a more rewarding job (or find a job, period), and improve our financial situation.

While setting goals can help us determine where and how to focus our energy and time, why is it that...
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Anxiety

Stress-Busting Tips for Election Day (and Thereafter)

Given the volatile and angry nature of this current national election, how do we manage our anxiety? Regardless of our political affiliations, this particular election cycle has involved unprecedented negativity and sensationalism, driven in part by people’s dissatisfaction with governmental gridlock, concerns about our economy, health care, foreign affairs, and racial issues, to name only a few.

We also live in a digital age where 24-hour access to late-breaking news (some being erroneous) is...
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General

Essential Life Lessons, Part 2


As Labor Day approaches, some students have returned to school, while others are enjoying their last days of freedom before classes begin. For those of us who have graduated from formal education, the school of life remains in session, and some ground rules still apply.

Put in the time.

Continuing to stick with an assignment even if you’d rather check Facebook or play a video game will strengthen your self-discipline and impulse control. Persevere. “A year...
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Anxiety

How to Prevent an Emotional Meltdown

"F-E-A-R has two meanings: 'Forget Everything and Run' or 'Face Everything And Rise'. The choice is yours. - Zig Ziglar

The alarm clock goes off. You roll over and slowly rise from your bed. Make your way to the kitchen. Grab a cup of coffee. Open your laptop. And read an accusatory email, perhaps from your boss, best friend, or significant other. Or open an unexpected and exorbitant bill. And you immediately launch into panic...
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Addiction

Nine Ways to Heal Your Relationship With Food

Why is it often difficult to have a healthy relationship with food, our bodies, and our weight? Why do we eat past the point of satiety, relentlessly criticize our thighs, belly, or other body parts, or base our self-worth on a number on the scale? Or why do we obsess about that ideal diet that will magically restore us to perfect health and also somehow heal our relationships, finances, and career woes?

The answers...
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Communication

The 4 Steps to an Effective Apology

 It takes courage to apologize. Saying we're sorry puts us in a position of vulnerability. We aren't in control of other people's responses. They might reject us. They might yell at us. They might not accept our apology.

However, these are all risks we can choose to take, in the spirit of wanting to make things right in terms of our behavior. Whether the apology is for a major or minor offense, saying...
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Anxiety

10 Ways to Thrive if You’re Highly Sensitive


Do people tell you that you’re too “thin-skinned” or overly reactive?
Do you tend to pick up on other people’s energy to the point where you “catch” their moods?
Does being around a large group of people drain you?
Do you need a lot of time alone to regroup and regain your energy?
Are you frazzled by noise, odors, or chattering, more so than the next person?
Do you compulsively overeat to...
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Addiction

Proven Help for Compulsive Eating

There’s no getting around it – food is an essential and often extremely pleasurable part of life. (That is, unless you’re a breatharian, a concept I personally cannot understand.)

Not only is food necessary for our physical sustenance, but it also figures prominently in many social and religious events. Thanksgiving and turkey (or tofurky). The Super Bowl, chips, and dip. Easter, chocolate eggs, and Peeps. Passover, matzoh, and gefilte fish.

Enjoying a leisurely meal with friends or...
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General

How Religion and Spirituality Can Help (or Harm) You

"Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car." (Billy Sunday)
Is it better for your happiness and health to belong to an organized religion or to be “spiritual”? Does it matter?

Being religious refers to believing in a specific deity (or group of deities) and following the regulations of a particular religion. In addition, organized religion (as implied by its title) generally takes place in...
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