31 Soul-Searching Questions To Ask Yourself

Happiness means different things to different people. For one person, this might mean a deep romantic connection with one’s spouse. For someone else, happiness might mean close friends on whom one can rely. Or a meaningful job. Or sufficient funds and time to travel the world. Or vibrant health. Or ample time alone to recharge. Or contributing to one’s community. Or good weather.

The key is to figure out what’s most important to you. Not to your...


How to Stop Being A Control Freak

Most of us feel better when we have some degree of control over our lives. After all, feeling on top of things gives us a sense of security and competence. Learning a new skill can increase our self-confidence. Acing an interview and getting the job for which we were vying boosts our morale. Figuring out by ourselves how to fix a computer glitch brings a huge sense of relief.

However, if we need every aspect of our...


How To Talk To Yourself With Self-Compassion

We are with ourselves 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and the conversations we have with ourselves greatly influence our feelings, actions, and characters. How would you describe your internal dialogues? Are they kind, supportive, self-compassionate, and patient? Or are they angry, critical, and discouraging?

If the latter’s the case, don’t despair. Really. You may say, “This is just the way I am. It’s too late to change.” Not so. Or, not entirely so....


What Stoicism Can Teach Us About Happiness

For many of us, there comes a time when it becomes clear to us that a pursuit of happiness through amassing material wealth and power does not do the trick. Whether or not we’ve attained some level of external security, that inner peace and contentment we’ve sought can feel tenuous and overly reliant on situations that could change at the drop of a hat.

All it takes is a look at the news from day to day...


How Self-Care Differs From Selfishness

If you fear that self-care means being selfish, you’re not alone. This is unfortunately a common misconception that can get in the way of tending to your own physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual needs. After all, especially in today’s world, there is a lot of talk about narcissistic behavior, and most of us would not want to be put into this category.

To set the record straight, there are crucial differences between self-care and selfishness.

First of all,...


8 Reasons Why Self-Care Is Essential

In a world where our obligations to our family, friends, job, and community can seem overwhelming, tending to our own needs often falls by the wayside. We may feel guilty about taking time for ourselves, yet we neglect self-care at our peril.

Reasons why self-care is important:

Self-care demonstrates that you know your personal worth. Taking care of yourself demonstrates not only to you but also to those around you that you value yourself. It tends to...


15 Physical Symptoms of Stress You Shouldn’t Ignore

Short-term stress is a normal part of life and to be expected. Having bills to pay, challenges at work, relationship issues, and health concerns can all trigger anxiety.

Our bodies are equipped to deal with temporary stressors by activating our "fight or flight response", which causes our heart to beat more quickly, our blood pressure to increase, our breathing to quicken, and our muscles to tense.

In addition, our immune system responds to a perceived threat by amping...


22 More Ways To Develop Resilience

If there’s one skill we all need in this unpredictable world, it’s resilience. Try as we might, and however hard we work, life will not always go our way. Some people respond to challenges and setbacks by bouncing back even higher, like a superball. Other people are more likely to land like a lead weight and to remain motionless in the face of adversity. In a previous post, I discussed 15 Ways To Develop Resilience....


The Link Between Your Beliefs and Your Emotions

So often we instinctively recoil from uncomfortable emotions, thinking that we either shouldn't be feeling them or that we cannot handle them. The truth is that we're meant to have a broad range of emotions. The key lies in not judging our feelings and paying attention to what they might be telling us - which might at times include erroneous beliefs about ourselves, other people, and our options.

For example:

Anger may show us what we're passionate about,...


12 Truths About Personal Growth

Many of us find that once we have everything we thought would make us happy, we still have a nagging sense that something is missing – yet we don’t quite know what. Or maybe we still haven’t achieved certain important personal milestones, yet find ourselves blocked against moving forward.

In either case, we may have a hunch that what we need more than anything else is an internal shift – personal growth, to use an oft-used and...