36 Ways To Challenge Yourself In 2020

Sometimes we need to reboot our lives, much like restarting a frozen computer screen when nothing else will fix the problem. When we're feeling wired and tired, we can slow down long enough to ask ourselves, "Is this depression or depletion?" Frequently it's the latter.

When we've been burning the candle at both ends for too long, things can get jangled up. We become forgetful. We snap at our family over inconsequential issues. The very thought of...


73 More Soul-Searching Questions To Ask Yourself

Self-knowledge is a powerful tool - especially when we combine this knowledge with constructive action. In a recent article, I listed 31 Soul-Searching Questions To Ask Yourself, to help you jumpstart this process. Below are additional questions to assist with gaining a clearer sense of yourself.

If you feel embarrassed that you're not clearer on your priorities, dreams, and feelings, rest assured that you are not alone. Many of us spend a lot of our time and energy concerned...


12 Hints For Dealing With Chronic Illness

Perhaps it’s those pesky migraine headaches, with the accompanying nausea, dizziness, and sensitivity to light, that threaten to incapacitate you on a regular or sporadic basis. Or maybe you struggle with chronic fatigue syndrome, a condition possibly connected with Epstein-Barr virus, that makes even taking a shower exhausting. Or you deal with rheumatic arthritis, an auto-immune illness in which symptoms can flare up and go into remission at seemingly random times.

Trying to manage a long-term health...


17 Possible Reasons Behind Your “Negative Attitude”

Even though we realize that a negative and fault-finding perspective can harm our physical and emotional health, relationships, work performance, and enjoyment of life, it can seem impossible at times to overcome a “bad attitude”. To compound the problem, we may then lambast ourselves for failing to “pull it together”. All this can add up to a sense of hopelessness.

It may help to take an honest and compassionate look at possible reasons why we’re having such...


31 Soul-Searching Questions To Ask Yourself

Happiness means different things to different people. For one person, this might mean a deep romantic connection with one’s spouse. For someone else, happiness might mean close friends on whom one can rely. Or a meaningful job. Or sufficient funds and time to travel the world. Or vibrant health. Or ample time alone to recharge. Or contributing to one’s community. Or good weather.

The key is to figure out what’s most important to you. Not to your...


How to Stop Being A Control Freak

Most of us feel better when we have some degree of control over our lives. After all, feeling on top of things gives us a sense of security and competence. Learning a new skill can increase our self-confidence. Acing an interview and getting the job for which we were vying boosts our morale. Figuring out by ourselves how to fix a computer glitch brings a huge sense of relief.

However, if we need every aspect of our...


How To Talk To Yourself With Self-Compassion

We are with ourselves 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and the conversations we have with ourselves greatly influence our feelings, actions, and characters. How would you describe your internal dialogues? Are they kind, supportive, self-compassionate, and patient? Or are they angry, critical, and discouraging?

If the latter’s the case, don’t despair. Really. You may say, “This is just the way I am. It’s too late to change.” Not so. Or, not entirely so....


What Stoicism Can Teach Us About Happiness

For many of us, there comes a time when it becomes clear to us that a pursuit of happiness through amassing material wealth and power does not do the trick. Whether or not we’ve attained some level of external security, that inner peace and contentment we’ve sought can feel tenuous and overly reliant on situations that could change at the drop of a hat.

All it takes is a look at the news from day to day...


How Self-Care Differs From Selfishness

If you fear that self-care means being selfish, you’re not alone. This is unfortunately a common misconception that can get in the way of tending to your own physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual needs. After all, especially in today’s world, there is a lot of talk about narcissistic behavior, and most of us would not want to be put into this category.

To set the record straight, there are crucial differences between self-care and selfishness.

First of all,...


8 Reasons Why Self-Care Is Essential

In a world where our obligations to our family, friends, job, and community can seem overwhelming, tending to our own needs often falls by the wayside. We may feel guilty about taking time for ourselves, yet we neglect self-care at our peril.

Reasons why self-care is important:

Self-care demonstrates that you know your personal worth. Taking care of yourself demonstrates not only to you but also to those around you that you value yourself. It tends to...