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How Gratitude Can Transform Us and The World

Although the Thanksgiving holiday serves as a good reminder for us to pause and count our blessings, the truth is that gratitude represents an attitude and actions that we can seek to cultivate every day of the year. In addition to improving our relationships with others, expressing our thanks offers many other benefits.

Some quotes and thoughts about gratitude:

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” (William Arthur Ward)

When...
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Coping With Identity Loss: An Athlete’s Life After Sport

Guest Post By Rob Feiner MS, PCCI, PPS

“All I’ve ever known was competition, what the $#@$%*! am I going to do now?!” My old training partner and friend lamented to me after leaving the orthopedic surgeon’s office on a sunny afternoon in the summer of 2006. My friend had sustained his third ACL tear in 3 years. Leaving that Dr.’s office he was delivered the news that he would undergo another full ACL surgery with grueling...
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Communication

Using Mindfulness To Improve Your Relationships

When we hear the word “mindfulness”, many of us think about how being more mindful could benefit our physical health, reduce our anxiety, help us perform better at our job, or deepen our spirituality. Being more mindful can certainly bring about these changes. However, mindfulness can also strengthen our relationships with other people. How does this work?

The three “what” skills of mindfulness are:

Observe

Describe

Participate

Generally, we practice one of the “what” skills at a time, rather than trying...
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Communication

How To Get Along Well With Others

Whether it’s your spouse, in-laws, children, friends, colleagues at work, clients, children, or people you encounter while going about your day, knowing how to get along well with others can greatly enhance your life, as well as the lives of those around you, in both personal and professional arenas.

Healthy interpersonal relationships and a strong social support system are counted among the most important elements in a happy existence. The following are some simple (although not always...
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How To Regulate Your Emotions By Developing Your Wise Mind

Have you ever flown off the handle and said or done things you later regret? (Almost all of us have.)

Or have you been so much “in your head”, focused on facts and figures that you lost contact with your feelings or those of other people? (Probably.)

In the first case, you were in what is called Emotion Mind, which is characterized by feelings, reactivity, impulsivity, and difficulty in remaining objective about a situation. In the latter example,...
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Anxiety

15 Steps To Develop Resilience

Why is it that some people bounce back from tragedy or even seem to thrive in the face of persistent hardship, while others collapse and stay down for the count?

Are some people just born with this resilience, defined as “an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change” (Merriam-Webster Dictionary)? Are the rest of us just less adaptive and destined to remain that way?

Or is resilience a skill we can acquire?

Fortunately, there are...
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Emotions

Seven Surprising Facts About Happiness

When asked to name their number one priority, people tend to list personal relationships, good physical health, meaningful employment, wealth, a comfortable home, sufficient leisure time… the list goes on and on.

However, just about everyone would agree that they want to be happy.

At the same time, many of us are concerned that we just don’t have it in us to be happy, or we have misconceptions about what brings happiness. Below are some facts about...
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Misconceptions About Happiness



Much has been said -- and misconstrued -- about what constitutes happiness. According to Sonia Lyubomirsky, researcher and author of The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness, happiness is “the experience of joy, contentment, and positive well-being, combined with a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile”. While it’s been estimated that 50% of our happiness is determined by genetics and 10% by circumstances (income, where you live, social status, age, etc.),...
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Combating The Cynic Within You

Do you sometimes jump to the conclusion that someone who smiles at you or asks how you’re doing is being fake – or has an ulterior motive? Perhaps you tend to criticize others (or yourself) more frequently than you used to. Or maybe you’ve been pulling back from getting together with friends, believing that they don’t really care about you. Possibly you’re just going through the motions at your job, rather than being excited about going...
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Who Is Meditating, and Why?

With mindfulness meditation gaining so much popularity over the past few decades, and seemingly even more so in the past ten or 15 years, it can seem as if just about everyone has taken up the practice. According to a recent research article (Burke et al, 2017) based on data from the 2012 National Health Interview Survey (NHIS), approximately of adults in the United States had practiced spiritual meditation,...
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