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Too Much Perfectionism

“Were it not for perfectionism, we would be in short supply of all those myriad human activities we deem extraordinary, excellent, outstanding or great in quality.”

Psychologist Stephen A.

2 thoughts on “Too Much Perfectionism

  • January 18, 2011 at 9:21 pm

    When one is seeking perfection how is it defined in a clear way so that someone can even pursue it? I find it very debilitating to pursue something that can not be defined or that at least has some set of criteria or benchmarks to help determine when to stop.

    I think pursuing something aligned with a standard of excellence; with specific, realistic performance criteria, whether it’s the arts, business, academia or sports need to be identified before the action begins or one runs the risk of going through an exercise in futility.

  • June 13, 2011 at 3:10 pm

    In Mallinger’s book, Too Perfect, he suggests the dividing line between striving for excellence (healthy) and striving for perfection (impossible) can be partly seen in how the striver reacts. For the healthy person, a great performance/test score or other achievement brings pleasure; for someone who is unhealthy, it only brings more stress/pressure to repeat/maintain, and emotional pain. If doing very, very well makes you feel BAD about yourself – because you weren’t “perfect,” or can’t repeat the experience, or any other excuse – you don’t have a healthy mindset.


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