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You Are Responsible for the Quality of Your Own Life

As a culture we seem to be gaining more and more awareness of the benefits of "self care" as a crucial ingredient for peace of mind and wholesome living. In successful romantic relationships this is especially important. In successful romantic relationships self care is more than an ideal, it is a must.

Each partner in a romance need to be taking individual care of their respective physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. The term “self-care” is widely used to refer...
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Addiction Recovery

Share Your Experience, Strength & Hope With Your Partner

In 12 step recovery circles there is an accepted protocol to how members support each other - especially when they are trying to help a newcomer to the program.

Members of the recovery community do not tell others in their group what is best for each other, they do not preach, and they do not pretend to know for certain what is best for one another. It is common to...
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Addiction Recovery

Only 8% of People Keep Their New Year’s Resolution

Think about the various commitments you and many others have made over the years. We did, and came up with this very brief list of common resolutions we typically hear before the new year:
I’ll lose weight.

I’ll stop smoking.

I’ll spend more time with my partner, or with my children.

I will save money.

I will be less stressed out. 
Then, somewhere around the second week of January, those promises go the way of all...
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Addiction Recovery

Exploring Your Past is a Prerequisite for True Mindfulness

Mindfulness. It means living in the moment. By now, most of us are well aware of the great emotional and spiritual promises of living mindfully. It is believed to lower high blood pressure, heal trauma, and enhance our problem-solving abilities. Studies show that mindful people may be happier1.

Many traditional philosophies however, stress the importance of purposefully going back in time and exploring our past experiences. We revisit where we have been and how we...
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“Gratitude is the Parent of All Virtues”

True tolerance of others, especially of those we love, is a virtue that all romantic partners enter into their coupleship hoping to achieve. The actual attainment of this virtue however, proves to be a most difficult and challenging feat for many of us to accomplish.
It is very challenging at times to truly tolerate the limitations and differences of others, especially when their limitations and differences impact us directly. It can become...
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Addiction Recovery

No One Can Push Your Buttons Without Permission

Many of us are quick to blame others for how we feel: “He makes me so mad!” or “She really hurt my feelings.

It is true that people can be hurtful and it is important to acknowledge when we are feeling that way. Denying our emotions will only make things worse, not better. But did someone really “make me angry” or are we feeling the anger in us getting kicked up in response to the way...
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Addiction Recovery

In-To-Me-See

True and meaningful intimacy is always based on a foundation of two romantic partners who allow each other into the inner depths of who they really are: Into me, see.

Still, many of us choose to hide behind a façade of who we aren't  because we are so afraid to let our partner know who we really are. We are sure that if he or she would get to know the real us, they would reject us.

What...
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Addiction Recovery

Let it Go, Let it Go…

Have you ever been told to just “let it go”? Many of us hear that from well meaning friends or family members trying to calm us down when we are upset or concerned. Heck, they may even sing you a song about it! We have often wondered what “let it go” really means (yes, we were wondering about this expression even before the song came out).

In a romantic relationship, partners often interpret “letting...
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Is There Any Romance in Your Romance?

Couples often tell us that they have lost the magical feeling they once knew in their relationship. They want to reclaim the romantic charge that they once shared during the early days of their relationship.

Most of us will recall those early years as emotionally challenging and spiritually draining but full of tremendous personal and romantic rewards. In the beginning we made a lot of mistakes, but our relationship was thrilling and alive....
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Three Steps to Emotionally Supporting Your Partner

Have you ever attempted to be helpful to a partner only to have your input rejected?

Some of the time the rejection we experience is overt and direct. At other times it is more covert and subtle. Our partner may smile and say “what a great idea!” but their body language or tone of voice may be indicating that they are rejecting us on the inside. Sometimes we were even accused of trying to “attack” our...
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