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Archives for February, 2014

Addiction Recovery

“Don’t Cry Over Spilled Milk” & other non-effective coping strategies

You may remember growing up with clichés like “do not cry over spilled milk” or “the past is the past…you should not live in the past.”  Those rules for coping with feelings were prominent when pop music discouraged “big boys” from crying and hit movies suggested “love meant never having to say you are sorry.”  There were so many rules for how we should feel or act that it is no wonder so many of us...
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Addiction Recovery

Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?

We typically encourage people embarking on a new romance to make a decision of complete commitment to their partner, a decision that from here on in, this is all there is. But are there no exceptions?

Many couples have come to us for marriage counseling with the goal in mind to “save the relationship.” They are full of doubt and fear and are somewhat suspect about the path we will lead them on in...
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Addiction Recovery

Two Common Excuses for Dishonesty in a Romance

In recent articles we have introduced the importance of maintaining authenticity in our romantic relationships. In this article we will expand on the theme by exploring some of the excuses we use for not being open and honest with our partners - but first we offer two important disclaimers:

First, openness and authenticity does not give us a right to hurt people in the name of transparency. We must think about what we are saying,...
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