Archives for May, 2013

Addiction Recovery

Do Not Mind Your Own Business

Many of us struggle with what to do when a loved one is troubled in some way.  Some of us believe that we need to mind our own business: it is not my place to say anything! Others interpret detachment to be a license to disregard the responsibility for loving another person.  Still others would rush into every problem to “fix it,” regardless of whether or not they have permission to do...
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Addiction Recovery

The Blame Game

The art of blaming situations, people, and events for the quality of our own lives is a skill we acquire as a child. Children however, do not start out lying and blaming others.  In fact, children generally begin by blaming themselves for the poor behavior of others.  A child will eventually learn to lie because it eases the pain of what he or she has done, or what he or...
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Addiction Recovery

Selfless Love

What is selfishness? What is self-centeredness? How about selflessness and “other”-centeredness? The ability to define these and learn to move from selfish to selfless can prove to be the difference between frustration and fulfillment.
In 12-Step recovery circles there is the promise that:

“We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows”
As children, it was natural for us to be egocentric. We believed that the world revolved around...
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Addiction Recovery

No Couple is an Island

The health of your romantic relationship can either enhance or diminished the quality of the lives of those who come into contact with it.  Whether your relationship is strong and in good health or floundering and weakened by disease or dysfunction, it is sure to have an impact on others.

For example, your loving care of each other can envelop and soothe your children. Alternatively, your arguing and discord will frighten and generate insecurity and instability...
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