Archives for April, 2013

Addiction Recovery

Sobriety, Romance, and Doing the “Next Right Thing”

Sometimes, we enter relationships for all the wrong reasons. Perhaps we are looking for “real love,” or affirmation of our self-worth, or any one of a hundred different reasons. We might have felt that our personal recovery had progressed to the point that we could handle any problems that might arise in a romance. We may even have believed that exclusive devotion to our love relationship or over-valuing...
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Addiction Recovery

Economic Insecurity vs. Romantic Security

In the recovery literature we are assured freedom from the fear of economic insecurity. The big book of Alcoholics Anonymous states that during the painstaking process of the 12 steps:

Fear … of economic insecurity will leave us.”*
If we examine that statement closely, we will find that no promises of wealth were made. Rather, the promise is that we will not be afraid of never having enough, or of...
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Addiction Recovery

There Can Only be One You

Do you wear two faces? Are there two sets of behavior that you employ – one for the world and the other for the privacy of your home?

So many of us were taught, as children to wear a smile when going out in the world, even as the chaos in our home continued. We grew up thinking that this was acceptable behavior. We could be pleasant and personable at work...
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