2 thoughts on “It’s Time To End Emotional Exports

  • May 23, 2019 at 2:59 am

    Isn’t this just the result of parentification, enmeshment? I was raised to ignore my own feelings and soothe my mother’s worries. It is what I was meant to be. Refusing “Emotional Exports” means rejecting my “caretaker identity” such as I grew it to fit into this world. The result is severe abuse and death threats from inside (inner critic) whenever I don’t comply. The emotionally needy person doesn’t even have to actively persecute me anymore. Now what? How does that magical unicorn “Neuroplasticity” make me an entirely different person?

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    • May 23, 2019 at 10:28 am

      Alice, I would never ask someone to give up emotional coping skills, no matter how unhealthy, without offering alternative, healthy ways of responding. That’s why I started with the list titled, “Here’s what you can count on from me.”

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