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Day 15, Part One: Life Happens. It Takes Twice As Long Online…

UPDATE: It is now 4:52 p.m. on Monday, June 25. It is Day 15 of my Blogathon. I had planned to continue the discussion I began yesterday, when I arrived home, but I just did and I’m exhausted. I took the bus and the subway. Therefore, I hope you’ll accept that this is my post for today. Tomorrow, I’ll finish writing Is “Texting Destroying Our Humanity, Part Two.”

This has not been a good morning because of all kinds of online demands have distracted me and kept me from my main obligations.

Emails. Texts. Research. Arrrrghhhh!

I had a small emergency that had to be dealt with fast. Online. That takes time. It takes twice as long, online, actually. And not because I type slowly. I’m a 150-word-a-minute girl. Started on a manual typewriter. Do you remember those?

Then another instant demand came through. And another.

There’s little spontaneity online ~ you must wait…

People do not always respond quickly. Instantly. Like on the phone. In live engaged conversation. True, emotions sometimes get in the way, but on the other hand, non-verbal cues are very telling. Frankly, they’re as important as the words.

Still, everything takes so much time. I’m not patient and I don’t like waiting.

When they respond, what you’re doing is interrupted. Yes, you can multitask. I can multitask, too. But sometimes concentration and engagement is more cost-efficient.

I prefer live conversations…

Dynamic engagement. I think it’s more productive. Synergistic. Here’s the math of synergy: 1 + 1 = 3 and that’s what happens when a group of people or only just two are together engaging with each other.

That doesn’t work in email or texting. There’s no energy. No dynamism. It’s dead. You may have quantity, but is the quality there.

I have not eaten breakfast. I was about to read a review of Sherry Turkle’s book. Can’t now. No time. It’s now 11:07 a.m. I have a luncheon appointment downtown at 1 p.m. I’m not yet dressed.

I have to be out of here in less than one hour.

Life is a series of interruptions with technology…

All my plans to write to you were interrupted because of email and online business that had to be attended to immediately. Instantly.

This is what I mean. Two quick phone calls could have saved me so much time.

So, I will return later to Part Two of Day Two, the conclusion of  yesterday’s post. I want to share with you some of my original 2009 post about this issue. Sherry Turkle wrote about this in 2009, too.

I wonder if times have changed. Or we’ve learned more.

I laugh when I think that Marshall McLuhan actually thought that technology would give us more leisure time.

What a joke.

There are no links here. Only a few subheads. No nothing. I’ll fill all those in when I return later in the day. And finish what I started yesterday.

Because you know what? Life happens. On its own. Without any notice. I love the excitement of that.

You can’t control life.

Life controls you!

It can cause anxiety but also thrills. Stress. But we need stress to live.

Perhaps I’m making my point.

You be the judge. Meanwhile I must eat breakfast. Now it’s 11:27 a.m.

Image: Devil@TengTeng

Day 15, Part One: Life Happens. It Takes Twice As Long Online…

Sandy Naiman

Sandy Naiman is a Toronto freelance journalist.

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