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I Don’t Want to “Fat Talk”…

A word about my weight. I don’t want to talk about it.

It an emotional issue. My emotional issue.

Directly related to my  emotional health, to trauma. Part of it is genetic, too.

I’m sorry I mentioned it at the end of my post the other day.

I regret this. It was an error in judgment. I’m deeply sorry.

My weight is my lifelong problem…

It’s not simply that I do not like being overweight. However, I’m not going to spend a lot of time discussing this, right now. Maybe sometime later. I don’t think it’s wise or healthy to obsess about weight and I hate myself for doing it. I’m working on stopping it.

I detest “Fat Talk” and it should be stopped

One’s weight is very private and at the same time, so highly complex and challenging that I am neither knowledgeable, qualified, or, quite frankly, interested in bringing it into this forum.

You must read Weightless with Social Worker Margarita Tartokovsky if you want to explore body image issues. Not weight. It’s a thoughtful, informative and provocative blog right here on Psych Central and you can discuss, learn, be inspired and provoked on the subject of body image, self-acceptance and well-being. Weight is not the main issue. Well-being is ~ not fat talk.

Feeling good about yourself…

I urge you to visit and be inspired. Engage in the discussion. A discussion that doesn’t really belong here. I don’t want it here.

So, let us forget about it for now and learn to be a little easier on ourselves. We live in a fantasy world where every image is doctored and Photoshopped and touched up and digitally manipulated. This is a sickness in itself. I long to see images that are real. I don’t even know what’s real anymore, unless I see it live and breathing with my own eyes.

No one is perfect…

All this slim obsession is perverse and it augments the problem, feeding a corporate greed that is sickest of all. I’m not going to discuss that right now. I don’t want to. I want to get on with my life and right now, de-cluttering and organization and de-stressing my life are my main objectives. Tidying up my life so I can find things and work more efficiently.

So, please. Let’s stick to the real issues. Not simply the symptoms.

Let’s take aim at the Organ Grinder. Not the Monkey…

Mental health is all encompassing. It factors into the lives of every human being on the planet. In infinite ways and forms. That form may not have a name or a label or a diagnosis, but trust me, if you have a mind, you must take care of it and nurture it and help it to thrive and heal because life isn’t easy or fair.

So, that’s it for now.

Short and sweet.

Speak soon. And thanks in advance for respecting my concerns…



I Don’t Want to “Fat Talk”…

Sandy Naiman

Sandy Naiman is a Toronto freelance journalist.

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