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Anatomy Of A Downsizing ~ Feeling Hopeful, Finally…

On Monday evening, we closed on our new house. It was utter madness.

We received our keys. The electrician and contractors were on call.

We were meeting at the new house to begin the task of transforming it into our own.

We're on a tight budget, so we're painting, mainly. From top to bottom. Citron yellow. And what a difference.

It's already starting to look like home, after only two

Colour is magical. And we already have friends.

Last week,...
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Anatomy Of A Downsizing ~ The Countdown…

Yesterday, the pictures began coming off the walls. It's hit me. We're really moving.

Until then, my world was simply chaotic. Closets, drawers and cabinets look the same when they're closed whether they're stuffed with stuff or empty. When you strip the walls, when the family photos come down, then you really know you're moving.

That's what Marty and I started doing last night.

There were a few

That lamp you see above took a tumble. The lampshade was...
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"Here I Go, Singing Low…"* Part 2

If you haven't looked at something in six months, out it

That's the rule. But rules don't always apply ~ especially when it comes to people and emotions.

I'm not about to spend hundreds of dollars to have someone tell me what I need and what I don't need. If I could afford that, I wouldn't be downsizing.

And, I ask you.

In all

How can an expert ~ albeit a Boomer, like me ~ who...
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"Pack Up All My Care and Woe…"*

Sunday, July 11: 9:10

I am swimming in my memories. What a mess!

It's not easy packing up dishes, platters, pots and crystal. No fun, but I have no huge emotional investment in stuff.

Not so, with people. Ghosts of my past swirling about me. Mental snippets of thousands of stories I've written. A lifetime of people with whom I've engaged in researching and writing them.

Ghosts of all the different people I was over the

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"Not Dead Yet"…*

Please forgive me.

I should have written earlier. Updated you ~ but I've been utterly overwhelmed with this downsizing. Dry. Distressed.

It's no fun. Fun and I aren't friends, right now.

Between teaching, packing, signing and initialing an unending stream of financial and legal documents plus all the countless details involved in moving, I've neglected you.

Keeping up with your comments simply isn't enough. So here I am to assure you that I'm still here, sort

The Stress...
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