Last night I had plans to visit with three of my nearest and dearest friends. I’ve been looking forward to it since last week when we made plans. You see, once a month, we get together for some wine, cheese, appetizers and a whole lot of laughter, stories, and catching up. I’ve come to truly cherish this time together; being ourselves and enjoying the moments.
I was looking forward to it this week especially since we haven’t been able to get together as often as we used to. One of the gals had a baby a few weeks ago, and aside from us popping in unexpectedly to meet the new member of the family, we haven’t seen her as much.
People’s lives are often super scheduled on the weekends, and during the weekdays, we are often tired. It’s all we can do to fit in a yoga class and eat a healthy meal before crashing into bed after working late the night before. Sometimes it can feel daunting to then go out and visit with friends (even your closest ones!).
A lot of college students spill about feeling anxiety about going out sometimes. One person described it as almost like two personalities – one that is humorous and fun loving and finds ease with being out and about, and another that wants to curl up at home and be alone.
Sure, anxiety is a real disorder, and sometimes it’s vital to seek help and attention for that. And I also want to remind us that it’s also okay to need to stay home and veg out once in a while – to spend time alone, doing nothing, in order to recharge.
Last night I didn’t end up going out to see my friends. I was tired and wanted to relax. Then my fiancée had to work late, so I didn’t have access to a car. The thought of getting on a bus or my bike or walking to and from my friend’s house was more draining than anything. So I decided to stay in. And it was the best decision I’ve made all week.
I sat on the couch with my dog, ate a hearty dinner with freshly baked whole wheat bread, read the latest book I started (that I love!) “The Buddha Walks Into a Bar,” talked with an old friend for an hour, meditated on my deck, and just chilled out. It was a most rejuvenating evening, and I was proud of myself for recognizing just what I needed.
Besides, another girlfriend was feeling the same way I was and decided not to go out either. So we’re definitely planning on a rain check (or should we call it recharge your batteries check?) very soon.
To those of you that are hard on yourself for wanting to be alone, I say, embrace the time to recharge. Be proud of yourself for deciding to give yourself what you need. And know that you’ll most likely be much happier in the long run with your new found energy, much of which you’ll again be able to share with others.
Woman on couch photo available from Shutterstock.