An oldie but a goodie...since this was popular and this week has been very difficult due to dealing with oral surgeries, bereavement, etc., I am reblogging myself...This is the complete list with a lot of the comments added.
I will be the first to admit that living in chronic pain can make me a bit…sensitive. I think when you live with pain or a disability, there is a tendency to think that people are judging you or criticizing you. I often feel a sense of inferiority at not being able to do what women my age can do. I also tend to feel there is a stigma attached to being chronically ill and, especially, to taking pain medication.
Through my discussions with fellow chronic pain sufferers and from my own experience, I have compiled a list of things that I am often told that people think are helpful, but for most of us, they are not. I am cautious in how I state this because I know that most people mean well and really are trying to help. I also know that after a couple of years living with this, many people feel they need to walk on eggshells with me. I am sure no one wants their support system to feel that way, so here are some things I personally find less than helpful: