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  • October 25, 2018 at 9:08 am

    Dr Webb: My husband, John Malvaez, attended your first Childhood Emotional Neglect Retreat last June 2018. I wish I could express how your articles, books, & the experience of the retreat has helped John finally begin to heal & grow from the lifelong pain from both his parents selfishness & all-around neglect. We’ve been married for 27 yrs but the last 9yrs have been like living with an unhappy-angry-apathetic stranger— I know your work had saved our marriage & his relationships with our 4 children without a doubt. We just discovered that John’s father died this past Summer in July & his long-term girlfriend and son, John’s half-Brother, did not inform us, despite having contact information & having been specifically asked to do so. It’s a devastating situation for John & his sisters and brother, made worse by the fact their mother has never accepted, even after 41 years, her marriage was over. Any guidance you you can give me on how best to support & help John AND his family through this would be greatly appreciated. I don’t want to lose my husband, again, after just starting to gett him back.

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    • October 25, 2018 at 9:34 am

      Dear Juliet, I am so very happy to hear that John took what he learned at the CEN Retreat and used it so well. He is fortunate to have such an understanding and supportive wife! His family situation sounds very painful indeed. I suggest that you and John go to page 121 of Running On Empty No More and read the section called “What To Do If There Is No Hope” which I wrote especially for those whose families are impossible to reach. The only thing John can do is take action to protect himself from his family of origin, grieve them and then focus on himself, you and your children. Please say hi to John for me. Sending you both all my best wishes.

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