4 thoughts on “Can Good People Be Bad Parents?

  • September 4, 2017 at 11:51 am

    Only through working through the steps of a 12 step recovery program was I able to deduce similar results of what happened to me in my childhood. Otherwise I’d be lost and repeating the pattern of CEN. What I discovered, also, is that our society doesn’t realize, acknowledge, or promote the feeling of our feelings. I am so glad to be at a place where I can constantly address my son’s feelings with him at every juncture, hug him when he needs it, share my feelings with him. Such an insanely powerful tool for my family’s well being. I’m grateful for and appreciate this post!

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    • September 4, 2017 at 8:05 pm

      Dear Joe, you are so right. We are an anti-emotion society in many ways. I’m glad you’ve figured out how important your son’s feelings are. Good work and take care!

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  • September 5, 2017 at 10:35 pm

    Great article. But too late for me. I am still not sure what I feel or how to express it and my kids are now grown. The only thing I know how to do is self sacrifice and doing everything for people (and kids) with no boundaries. That has not worked well as a life plan.

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    • September 6, 2017 at 7:57 am

      Hi Nore, you are right in that it’s a very good way to become depleted. I hope you’ll start focusing on yourself now!

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