4 thoughts on “Not a Joiner? Understand and Manage Your Discomfort in Groups

  • May 22, 2016 at 5:46 pm

    Trapped, ignorant, not worthy, can’t fit in. Those are mine and it just gets worse. Been that way even as a child and also 1 on 1. I always thought I just wasn’t likeable. Now I have a little hope that it’s just my perception of it.

  • December 22, 2016 at 5:55 am

    What if I just enjoy my own company(I am single) and prefer to be alone? My childhood was fine but I lived out in the country and most of my playtime was spent alone with animals and I liked it. If I played with other kids it was the guys in the neighborhood and I played sports with them. When I got older I had a few friends in high school but again preferred my own company. Now due to one person (turns out a needy, clingy emotional) I connected with on FaceBook I am getting sucked into lunches with “old friends” that I was never really friends with. They were in my class but that’s about it. Several of them make me distinctively uncomfortable. When we go out to lunch it is difficult because I am on a diet (not for weight loss only but general health), I end up eating too much and then when I come home eat more out of anxiety over the situation.
    I enjoy my limited family and a couple of friends that I made after I became an adult and that is enough for me. This is coming to a head and it will explode I am afraid.

  • January 18, 2017 at 9:03 pm

    This article is so strange: It assumes that people who don’t like being in groups have something wrong with them. I don’t like joining groups because they’re boring and they cater to the least common denominator. Groups of other women are especially the worst: they get cliquey, gossipy, the tall poppy is always cut down, and in the end they all just wind up discussing their childbirth experiences anyway.

    No, I actually don’t have some repressed traumatic childhood… I just think women’s groups are boring.

    • August 10, 2017 at 1:56 pm

      ep…loved your reply! I agree 100%. Nothing wrong with not enjoying groups, and that childbirth comment made me laugh out loud.


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