Part of growing up with your emotions ignored is a deep sense that you are alone.

Yet, ironically and surprisingly, you are not. You are in the company of many others who have grown up like you, and who feel like you do.

Sometimes it helps to hear that others have been where you are. It’s validating to know that they have thought about, and talked about, the vague sense of unease and disconnection that you are living with.

Here are some quotes from famous people that I hope you will find not only validating, but also inspiring.

Best Quotes For The Emotionally Neglected

Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don’t realize what messages they are sending.

– Virginia Satir

Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.

– Merle Shain

Human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion, and knowledge.

– Plato

All emotion is involuntary when genuine.

– Mark Twain

Unfortunately, it is human nature for us to only learn and grow from a place of emptiness. It’s hard to learn when we are winning and on top of the world.

– Yehuda Berg

The one self-knowledge worth having is to know one’s own mind.

– F. H. Bradley

When you please others in hopes of being accepted, you lose your self-worth in the process.

– Dave Pelzer

When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.

– Dale Carnegie

The more space and emptiness you can create in yourself, then you can let the rest of the world come in and fill you up.

– Jeff Bridges

If you don’t know your worth, if you don’t know your value, if you don’t know how fantabulous you are – it’s going to be hard for other people to see it. Being appreciative of self is beauty to me.

– Kelly Rowland

Over the years, I’ve interviewed thousands of people, most of them women, and I would say that the root of every dysfunction I’ve ever encountered, every problem, has been some sense of a lacking of self-value or of self-worth.

– Oprah Winfrey

One must always maintain one’s connection to the past and yet ceaselessly pull away from it.

– Gaston Bachelard

If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.

– Daniel Goleman

Wealth is the progressive realization of worthy goals, the ability to love and have compassion, meaningful and caring relationships.

– Deepak Chopra

Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement, all success, all achievement in real life grows.

– Ben Stein

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.

– Helen Keller

Growing up with your emotions ignored or invalidated (Childhood Emotional Neglect, or CEN) sets you up to struggle with knowing and valuing yourself, and understanding and identifying your feelings. To learn whether CEN might be at work in your life, Take the Emotional Neglect Questionnaire. It’s free!

I would love to know your favorite quote, and why it resonates with you. Whether it’s from the list above or from elsewhere, please do share it here!