10 thoughts on “Stop Stealing R.A.D. Moms’ Opportunities to Bond With Their Unattached Kids

  • March 27, 2020 at 7:11 pm

    Maybe your child doesn’t like you? Get over it. It isn’t their job to make you feel good. That’s called emotional incest.
    Do away with this pseudoscience. That’s what it is. Not backed by science AT ALL.

  • March 28, 2020 at 7:08 am

    Delete this pseudoscientific article.

  • April 1, 2020 at 5:25 pm

    Excellent article! Very well explained. So few understand or are willing to try to understand.

    • April 4, 2020 at 4:00 pm

      Well, that’s because it’s child abuse. Quit trying to force children to adore you. It is never a child’s job to make the parent feel good or wanted or whatever. REAL therapists (not unlicensed quacks like AT proponents) call this emotional incest.

      If you have kids quit doing this to them. They act “good” so you quit torturing them. Their normal around other people because they’re not abused by normal people. No one can steal your child affection. If your kid doesn’t want to hug you get over it. If you would just be a good parent, you wouldn’t have to worry about forcing your child to be affectionate.

      • April 6, 2020 at 1:03 pm

        I’m sorry you’re so angry and feel the need to hurt other people. It has nothing to do with forcing a child to love you or touch you inappropriately. Attachment, love, belonging and stability is normal and healthy. It’s when a child cannot attach to anyone, it becomes unhealthy for them. They can, however, hug people they don’t know easily, but they fear any real type of real attachment. They do well in their adoptive placement, for example, until they begin to feel happy and comfortable inside, then they demolish this opportunity, and this type of pattern will continue into adulthood resulting in many failed marriages and very hurt children if it’s not recognized and healed. I understand that not everyone is going to like me in life, and I’m good with that fact. I never forced hugs. You’re not even on the same wavelength as this article. You don’t understand what they are saying. I’m sorry someone hurt you so badly you need to hurt others in return. We just want our children to be able to love and be happy in life, without destroying it when that happiness feels uncomfortable for them, replacing it with the chaos they’re more familiar with.

      • April 8, 2020 at 1:49 am

        Again, they must love you, or they will fail in life?

        What are your scientific backings? Also, why is this “therapy” denounced by all recognised therapists?

        🤣not out to hurt you. That quite selfish of you, yeah? Thinking I’m out to get you?

        Why not let PROFESSIONALS treat your poor child for PTSD and quit labeling them with your BS. I feel quite terribly for your kids. Talk about hurt children. So desperate for a kid to adore you yet you’re ruining, PERMANENTLY, any chance of that happening.

        So. Where’s your evidence? A traumatized adult has PTSD but a traumatized child has your made up disorder? Have you ever picked up the DSM? Apparently not.

        Do you support “holding therapy”? I can only assume you do.

        Again, why force a child to love you and deny them happiness and connection and trust with others? How the hell do you justify your sick behavior? Certainly can’t diagnose over the internet but I guarantee you’ve got a personality disorder.

      • April 12, 2020 at 11:13 pm

        To Schmitt

        There are currently two main areas of theory and practice relating to the definition and diagnosis of attachment disorder, and considerable discussion about a broader definition altogether. The first main area, based on scientific inquiry, is found in academic journals and books and pays close attention to attachment theory. It is described in ICD-10 as reactive attachment disorder, or “RAD” for the inhibited form, and disinhibited attachment disorder, or “DAD” for the disinhibited form. In DSM-IV-TR both comparable inhibited and disinhibited types are called reactive attachment disorder or “RAD”.

      • May 15, 2020 at 12:18 am

        It’s being misdiagnosed. Never said it didn’t exist. Her treatment is starving the kid of all other positive interactions. How is that treatment? Considering the symptom is not wanting to hug mom. 🙄

      • April 8, 2020 at 1:54 am

        So what are these treatment methods? If it is t child abuse I beg you to elaborate.

        WHERES THE SCIENCE? Not here that’s for sure.


        Pick up the DSM and for gods sake get away from the quackery. If this were real treatment they wouldn’t be passing laws against it and it wouldn’t STILL be exclusive treatment for the wealthy. 🤣 bet you pay BIG buck.

  • April 8, 2020 at 1:57 am

    LOL “I’m not wrong, everyone lose is just angry”.

    Sorry you can’t have kids lady but NO child should be forced into “loving” anyone. You think that “therapy” worked. They’re faking it until they can get away from you. At least that’s what adult survivors of your “therapy” say.


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