3 thoughts on “Childhood Behavioral Concerns: How to Stop Whining in Its Tracks

  • February 11, 2018 at 9:29 am

    I’ve raised two daughters and here’s what worked for me to teach them not to whine: I would say to them, every time, in a flat voice, “I can’t hear you when you whine. Please speak to me like this and then I can hear you better.” Again, the key to this was 1) every time and 2) flat voice so they can hear exactly how I wanted them to speak. And yes, over time this worked with both of my kids. I didn’t have to ignore them and I actively taught them a non-irritating way to speak.

    • February 12, 2018 at 3:24 pm

      Not only does your way make sense, but the author’s read of people, no doubt based entirely on textbooks, is damaging at best. If I’m grouchy with a family member, sometimes I’m just plain sleepy, not seeking any reward or avoidance per se. Or I could be frustrated with my career or finances at the time. The motivators behind human behavior cannot be contained into four neat packages. The writer’s own motivations seem self aggrandizing and narcissistic to me.

      • February 13, 2018 at 6:41 am

        Kali, how you could come to that conclusion from the author’s post is beyond comprehension. It sounds like when you whine, you find a reason to dodge responsibility for you actions. Good luck.


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