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All the Reasons Why Our Kids’ Behaviors AREN’T Concerning

You guys know that I write this blog about all the things we need to recognize, worry about, or praise in childhood behavior. I love it. (Most days.)

But today, I just feel like I need to express something that isn’t about a behavioral concern, but instead, is a behavioral norm. I just want to talk about all the ways our kids aren’t concerning.

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Kids pick their noses. Yes, encourage them to stop because it can make them sick, but chill the heck out about it. It doesn’t mean they’re going to end up being a hoarder who lives in a cottage by a river with 300 cats.

Kids can be hard to potty train. Yes, it can signal developmental delays if it goes on for years more than their peers, but chill the heck out about it. It doesn’t mean they’re going to be thirty years old and still peeing their pants at work. (Unless they’ve birthed children, and then they actually might be peeing their pants at work. #beenthere)

Kids sleep in their parents’ beds. Yes, it is a behavior and yes it can be from underlying issues, but chill the heck out about it. It doesn’t mean they’re still going to be sleeping in your bed before they wake up and go to tenth grade.

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Kids punch each other sometimes. Yes, it is aggressive and should be stopped, but chill the heck out about it. It doesn’t mean they’re going to end up in an underground fight club, knocking people’s teeth out for cash.

Kids suck at learning to read. Yes, it can signal development delays if it takes too long (just like potty training), but chill the heck out about it. Reading is really freaking hard, especially when you’re still on the building blocks phase of it. Just because they can’t read in kindergarten, that doesn’t mean they’ll still need you to read party invitations to them during their junior prom.

Kids throw tantrums. Yes, they have to learn how to manage their emotions in healthier ways, but chill the heck out about it. Just because they throw themselves on the floor in the middle of Sam’s Club right now, that doesn’t mean they’ll still pound their fists on the ground every time they get into an argument with their spouse as an adult.

Kids are awkward. And I’m not even going to defend this because it’s beautiful and we should learn something from their lack of inhibitions in social situations.

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Kids argue about everything when they’re four years old. Yes, this is annoying, but chill the heck out about it. And then drink some wine because it’s not going to stop until they move out of your house and realize you’re an angel in earthly form.

Kids are curious about body parts. Yes, we have to teach them safe boundaries and biological facts, but chill the heck out about it. Just because little Susie is showing everyone her bellybutton in the clearance aisle at Walmart, that doesn’t mean she’ll start working at a night club the day she turns eighteen. And just because little Billy won’t stop touching his crotch in public–even when Nana is in town and you’ve tried your hardest to divert her attention to the amazing paper towel sale at Target–that doesn’t mean he’ll end up being a chubby, middle-aged flasher who runs through the streets of town, yelling, “Look at my package!”

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Kids suck, you guys. They’re still learning about everything around them, and they’re all incredibly different. Some learn quickly, some take a little more time. Some are easy, some are difficult, and some leave you wondering how the heck they’ve grown up in the same family as your other four kids and turned out so strange.

We suck, too. Parents are literally the worst and most valuable people on the planet, and we don’t even know how much we suck until it’s too late. That’s the beauty of it!

Because a few decades ago, you were a kid with behavioral “concerns,” too. You might’ve been a crotch-digger or a nose-picker. Who knows?

Your angel of a mother probably doesn’t broadcast all the weird crap you did when you were small because she loves you in spite of it all.

Honestly, stop Googling every weird thing your kid does, and start spending some time with them. Then invite their friends over and spend some time with them, too. You’ll realize just how weird other people’s kids are, as well.

I’ll start up blogging about childhood behavioral concerns again next week, but this week, let’s just celebrate all the reasons why our odd little offspring aren’t concerning.

All the Reasons Why Our Kids’ Behaviors AREN’T Concerning

W. R. Cummings


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APA Reference
Cummings, W. (2018). All the Reasons Why Our Kids’ Behaviors AREN’T Concerning. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 16, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/childhood-behavioral/2018/03/all-the-reasons-why-our-kids-behaviors-arent-concerning/

 

Last updated: 4 Mar 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 4 Mar 2018
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