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Is It Possible For Kids to be “Too Far Gone” to Improve?


Too many times over the past five years, I've heard educators say things like, "There's not much we can do for this kid. He's already (blank) years old so we might as well just spend our time helping kids who can actually benefit from our services."

While I get the sentiment behind not pouring resources down the drain, I can't help but recoil against the idea that teaching is a limited resource or that students are inanimate...


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Is Medication the Answer for My Child?


The idea of medicating children to treat brain disorders has been argued about for longer than most of us realize. Even before medication was an option, the idea of hospitalization was along with lobotomies, exorcisms, and bloodletting. For as long as humanity has struggled against mental illness, society has tried to find ways to either eradicate it or treat it.

Fortunately, we live in the days of less harmful treatment options. Unfortunately, however, we live...


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Why Punishing a Child by Withholding Affection is Wrong


I could write fifty thousand words (at least) about why showing children affection is beneficial to their development and mental health. No, I don't mean forced physical affection. I mean hugs, high fives, eye contact, verbal praise, and general excitement to be around them.

When a parent picks up their child from daycare, they should light up when they make eye contact with their kid. That's affection. They should be interested in how their kid's day...


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Are You and Your Child In a Positivity Drought?


Several years ago, I worked the hardest "job" I've ever been assigned. I call it a "job" because I got paid for it, but I never had time off so it was more of a lifestyle than a job.

For a year and a half, I worked with my husband as the house parents of a group home for teenage boys. Up to eight teenage boys lived with us at one time in order to work...


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Not All People Are Meant to Work With Kids Who Have Behaviors


Sometimes I forget just how specialized the field of behavior is. I like to tell myself that if we can just spread awareness, we can equip every adult in the world interact with behavioral children in healthier ways. While it's true that we can help them do better, we can't make every adult into a super efficient behavioral modification machine.

Some people just aren't wired in the necessary way to work in this field. And that's...


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Why Are Kids From Trauma Backgrounds Attracted to One Another Like Magnets?


My oldest daughter came from a life of trauma. She's healing now and has worked through a lot of her heartache, but the trauma will never fully leave her. It left a scar that can be softened but not erased entirely.

Sometimes it feels like every time she takes a step forward with emotions or behavior, then the next month she takes two steps backward.

For example, she recently made some bad choices with a friend at...


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The After School Behavior Meltdown

Am I the only one who kind of hates spending time with their kids from 3:00PM to 5:00PM every day? I love but I really don't like them right after they've gotten out of school for the day. If your kids are anything like mine, they're absolutely psychotic from the moment they step into your car after school to right around dinner time. Or, as with my middle schooler, their chaos starts as soon...


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Girls Who See Men Cry


I have three little girls, and they've all grown up thinking men don't cry. they've LITERALLY never seen it.

We had a conversation in the car about it this week after a man in our life talked about himself crying. All three of my girls seemed skeptical that it had actually happened. They assumed he was just saying it to get a reaction out of them or to make himself sound like someone with a good...


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Removing Technology From Our Home Changed My Kids’ Behavior

For eight years, I've had kids who spent most of their evenings either begging for tablet time or zoning out to TV show after TV show. We never wanted our kids to be that way, but, somehow, amidst the chaos of life and the loss of intentionality in our parenting, it happened. What started out as, "You can watch one show," turned into, "You've been watching that for three hours," before we even realized it. And...