Raising Kids Who Actually Treat Each Other Well

How often do you hear parents say things

"They're just so mean to each other!"
"They bicker like all siblings do."
"They beat the crap out of each other."
"If they're together, they're arguing."
"I'm exhausted just from getting onto them for fighting all day long."
"Why can't they just play nicely like other kids do?!"

... ? Or maybe you say those things yourself.

If you do, don't feel guilty. Just practice acknowledging it so you can identify...


Raising a Child Whose Trauma Triggers Your Own

Not every adult experienced trauma as a child, but far more people have than what most of us realize. Research by the CDC estimates that about 60% of adults in America experienced at least one case of trauma during their childhood.

That's 200 MILLION people.

It's important to remember that trauma isn't just physical or sexual abuse. It could also be something like losing a loved one, being in a car wreck, getting a medical diagnosis, having a...


How Childhood Trauma Causes Imbalanced Growth

When most of us think of childhood development, we think of babies learning to roll over, toddlers saying their first words, or kids learning to ride their bikes without training wheels. Most of us think about the big milestones but forget about the spectrum of growth that had to happen before those milestones could be reached.

Kids grow in so many different areas, the most commonly evaluated ones being physical growth, mental cognition, emotional development, social...


Why Taking Recess Away From Behavior Kids is Counterproductive

As a behavior interventionist, one of my greatest joys is seeing a GenEd teacher work with a behavior student in a proactive, patient way. On the flip side, one of my biggest disappointments is when a GenEd teacher sees a behavior student as a nuisance who disrupts everyone else's life. Usually, when the second happens, the teacher stops giving emotionally neutral consequences and starts giving emotionally charged punishments, instead.

And the first punishment to be thrown...


Autistic Kids – The Difference Between Arguing and Seeking Understanding

After spending a significant amount of time with Autistic students over the past five years, I've had the opportunity to learn things about them I'd have never known otherwise. One of the things I've learned they can't all be lumped into one category! They're unique individuals whose interests, abilities, and personalities are as varied as any other group of human beings.

NOTE: This is where you call me a hypocrite because I've literally just written...


Behavioral Disorders — Girls Are Receiving Less Help Because They’re Easier to Ignore

My elementary-aged classroom is full of students who have behavioral disorders. While there are eight boys in my class, for some reason, there aren't any girls at all. Why is that?

Why does the behavior classroom next door to me only have boys, too?

Why did the behavior classroom I ran two years ago only have boys in it?

Why is it that 97% of the calls I've gotten to help General Education teachers with difficult students ......


Is My Child Acting Like Me? – An Ugly Behavior Mirror

Sometimes, we have no idea why our kids are misbehaving the way they are. Other times, we know exactly where their behavior is coming from and how to make it stop. And then occasionally, in those moments none of us really want to look at, we wonder if we're the actual culprits behind our children's behavior.

After all, we're ready and willing to take credit for the good stuff they do. Shouldn't we also take credit for...


Getting On the Same Page About How to Discipline Your Kids

Learning how to become an effective parent is one of the most difficult jobs we have. It's difficult just by itself, but it becomes even more so when the parents of a child disagree on disciplinary methods. Throw in the complications of blended families, stepparents, divorce, foster families, or children from different and you've got a recipe for so many parental arguments.

How do we get on the same page as our team members about how...


How the 8th Sense Affects a Child’s Emotional Experiences

The eighth sense? But I thought there were only five senses?

We teach kids in elementary school about the five senses--taste, touch, small, hearing, and sight--but there are actually more. The other three are just a bit harder to explain to a group of five year olds so most people don't know about them.

The other three "official" senses are 1) the sense of head movement in space, which utilizes the vestibular system, 2) the sense...