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Walking a Narrower Road

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
--Robert Frost

In recent entries I've explored the nature of choice and identity. Today I want to step back and address a more fundamental question: how can we find ease of mind?

In this society, we are raised to make our way in the world. We learn to socialize, produce, and reproduce in culturally lauded ways....
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My Refuge in Reality

Anyone who has followed my writings, however sporadically, has witnessed my maturation. As I review essays written over six years, it seems clear my tone has grown less competitive, more accepting, less self-centered, and more compassionate.

This budding of genuine adulthood has proceeded neither steadily nor smoothly, as explained in my post Healing After Trauma: Ten Steps Forward, Nine Steps Back. As recently as four days ago (Easter Sunday) I found myself on the brink of that growling chasm of...
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The Accidental Self

Is who we become in life decided by chance, or by choice?

Our genetic composition was determined when our parents (and all prior ancestors) selected mates, but these weren't our decisions, so our stock of genes is a chance outcome as far as we're concerned. Likewise, the quality of early childhood, although strongly relevant to our trajectory later in life, cannot count as personally chosen. So right away we see that many dice were cast before we began to make decisions of any import.

What about our early...
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