Archives for November, 2014
4 Tips for Improving Self-Esteem
Low self-esteem, which is just another term for shame, is very common in our culture. It especially afflicts those who grew up abused, neglected, or bereaved. Here are some simple tips for building confidence.
1. Be Fair
Everyone suffers from flaws. It's not fair to focus on our own personal defects without acknowledging the messiness of every personality.
If we only notice our own shortcomings, we feel insecure. If we remember that falling short is part of the human...
1. Be Fair
Everyone suffers from flaws. It's not fair to focus on our own personal defects without acknowledging the messiness of every personality.
If we only notice our own shortcomings, we feel insecure. If we remember that falling short is part of the human...
5 Tips for Healing after Childhood Adversity
1. Reframe Vulnerabilities
Those of us who experienced abuse, grief, or neglect during childhood feel different from those who didn't. We are more easily hurt, which leads to withdrawal or rage. We feel less confident in ourselves, which leads to under- or over-achievement. We have...
Those of us who experienced abuse, grief, or neglect during childhood feel different from those who didn't. We are more easily hurt, which leads to withdrawal or rage. We feel less confident in ourselves, which leads to under- or over-achievement. We have...
Success Is an Inside Job
One of the things I find delightful about writing is the way it helps me shape my views. In a recent email exchange with my friend, Larry Berkelhammer, PhD, I began by offering advice but ended up changing my opinion. Much of the text that follows is excerpted from that conversation. (Larry, by the way, has recently started a new blog on : In Your Own Hands. He has given me permission to share the...
Gonna make you, make you, make you notice…
Earlier this year I watched two swallows feeding their chicks. When mom or dad returned to the nest, the hatchlings jostled for attention, pushing each other aside, their bright yellow throats agape. Sometimes I think we humans are no different in our clamor for recognition.
In my writings I've sometimes advanced philosophical notions. To be honest, I hoped readers would be impressed (though there was never any evidence that they were). What I didn't understand was...
In my writings I've sometimes advanced philosophical notions. To be honest, I hoped readers would be impressed (though there was never any evidence that they were). What I didn't understand was...
