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5 Tips To Get More Out Of Your Life

One of the definitions of “flourishing” is to be in one’s prime state, at the height of excellence. But, for many people, this is far from reality.

Good news though, recent research is pointing to new ways you can increase your odds of flourishing.

The founder of positive psychology, Martin Seligman, made two main points about flourishing:

1) The acronym PERMA captures five central elements of human flourishing, each independently measured and worked with. These are:

  • Positive emotions
  • Engagement
  • Relationships (positive/healthy)
  • Meaning
  • Accomplishment/achievement

2) It is the character strengths that are the pathways to PERMA. Seligman says this:

“these twenty-four strengths underpin all five elements, not just engagement: deploying your highest strengths leads to more positive emotion, to more meaning, to more accomplishment, and to better relationships” (Seligman, 2011, p. 24).

There is now plenty of research that supports this theory showing that character strengths are closely connecting to each part of PERMA/flourishing (see Niemiec, 2017, for a review).

Practicing Flourishing, Practicing PERMA

So, how might you take action – and really put this research into practical reality in your life? Let’s use the acronym of PERMA as a guide. Each of these action-oriented interventions comes from the new book Character Strengths Interventions:

  • Positive emotions: Feeling pleasant feelings such as joy, excitement, interest, hope, and contentment come from many sources, one of which can be reflecting on something good that happened during our day and sharing it with others. Reference: Lambert and colleagues (2011).
    • Strategy: Share an example of something good that happened to you today. Name the character strengths that you used that contributed to the good feelings.
  • Engagement: There are seemingly countless ways we might use our signature strengths to engage more at work, at play, and in whatever we are currently focused on. And there is good reason to attend to this as workers who reported high strengths use at work were 18 times more likely to be flourishing than those who reported low strengths use. References: Hone and colleagues (2015); Langer (2006); Proyer and colleagues (2013).
    • Strategy: Engage in a household chore or a work project by thinking of 3 novel things about the activity while you do it. Use your senses and your mindful awareness to experience the task in this new way.
  • Relationships: couples who recognize and appreciate the character strengths of one another have more committed and successful relationships. Put simply: They’re happier in the relationship. Reference: Kashdan and colleagues (2017).
    • Strategy: Name one example of how your partner has used each of their top 3 strengths in an admirable way. Share this with them and explain why this is important to you.
  • Meaning: workers who use their signature strengths at work are more likely to experience meaningful work – their job becomes a “calling” in their life. Reference: Harzer and Ruch (2016).
    • Strategy: Align one of your signature strengths with your top 3 work tasks (e.g., running a meeting, filing papers, e-mailing a customer).
  • Achievement: we can directly accomplish more in life by creating goals and taking steps to reach them. Goals can be big or small. The best ones are specific and reachable. Hope is a central part of this. Reference: Cheavens and colleagues (2006).
    • Strategy: Set a goal of something you would like to accomplish. Build hope by thinking of at least 3 ways you can achieve your goal and at least 3 positive thoughts you can use to motivate yourself to stay focused on it.


Cheavens, J. S., Feldman, D. B., Gum, A., Michael, S. T., & Snyder, C. R. (2006). Hope therapy in a community sample: A pilot investigation. Social Indicators Research, 77(1), 61–78.

Harzer, C., & Ruch, W. (2016). Your strengths are calling: Preliminary results of a web-based strengths intervention to increase calling. Journal of Happiness Studies, 17(6), 2237–2256.

Hone, L. C., Jarden, A., Duncan, S., & Schofield, G. M. (2015). Flourishing in New Zealand workers: Associations with lifestyle behaviors, physical health, psychosocial, and work-related indicators. Journal of Occupational and Environmental Medicine, 57(9), 973–983.

Kashdan, T. B., Blalock, D. V., Young, K. C., Machell, K. A., Monfort, S. S., McKnight, P. E., & Ferssizidis, P. (2017). Personality strengths in romantic relationships: Measuring perceptions of benefits and costs and their impact on personal and relational well-being. Psychological Assessment. Advance online publication.

Keyes, C. L. M. (2002). The mental health continuum: From languishing to flourishing in life. Journal of Health and Social Behavior, 43, 207–222.

Lambert, N. M., Gwinn, A. M., Fincham, F. D., & Stillman, T. F. (2011). Feeling tired? How sharing positive experiences can boost vitality. International Journal of Wellbeing, 1(3), 307–314.

Langer, E. (2006). On becoming an artist: Reinventing yourself through mindful creativity. New York, NY: Ballantine Books.

Niemiec, R. M. (2017). Character strengths interventions: A field-guide for practitioners. Boston, MA: Hogrefe.

Proyer, R. T., Ruch, W., & Buschor, C. (2013). Testing strengths-based interventions: A preliminary study on the effectiveness of a program targeting curiosity, gratitude, hope, humor, and zest for enhancing life satisfaction. Journal of Happiness Studies, 14(1), 275–292.

Seligman, M. E. P. (2011). Flourish. New York, NY: Free Press.

5 Tips To Get More Out Of Your Life

Ryan M. Niemiec, Psy.D

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Niemiec, R. (2018). 5 Tips To Get More Out Of Your Life. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 20, 2020, from


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