6 Surprising Predictors of Relationship Compatibility

Many of us think we know which traits we want our ideal partner to have. Yet for some reason we often find ourselves attracted to people who possess none of those qualities. Sometimes we meet potential mates who seem perfect on paper but with whom we have no immediate spark. Other times we feel instant chemistry but end up with an incompatible long-term partner.

Attraction may feel natural, but that doesn’t mean it’s random. To figure out how...


How to Deal with Difficult People

During the past few years, one of the biggest adjustments I had to make was learning to let go of the toxic relationships in my life. Whether it was a friend or boyfriend, I found it difficult to cut ties and walk away from an unhealthy situation—even when it was in my best interest.

Looking back, I realize the reason I stayed in these relationships was the fear of starting over and building new relationships from...


Why Withdrawing or Expecting Your Partner to Read Your Mind During a Fight is Ruining Your Relationship

When you get in a fight with your significant other, what’s your natural reaction? Is it to withdraw and avoid the conflict entirely? Or be silently angry in the hope that he or she will figure out what’s wrong?

In past relationships, I’ve been guilty of expecting my boyfriend to read my mind when I’m angry or upset. When he would ask me what’s wrong, I’d respond with one-word answers and act cold for the next ten...


Learning to Let Go of Control and Go with the Flow

It’s human nature to seek control. Of course we want to know how things are going to turn out. Am I wasting time at a job that will never lead to a promotion? Am I dating someone who will never commit? The list goes on and on.

We spend so much time planning and coming up with all of these rules and expectations for how things should be and what we want to happen. And then when something...


Decision-Making: Do You Know What You Want?

Do you know the average person makes about 200 decisions each day? And that’s just about food.

I admit I’m that person who stares at the menu for way too long before ordering. Sometimes, I even get anxiety standing in line at Starbucks. As I’m waiting and thinking about my options, I panic when it’s my turn and just say, “Grande black coffee.” And then I walk away realizing I really wanted a latte....


The Key to Happiness (According to This 75-Year Harvard Study)

Although each of us might define happiness differently, it’s something we all desire.

Many of us wait for and depend on the incredible moments in life – getting a promotion at work, falling in love, or going on vacation – to experience happiness. While there will always be highs and lows in life, we all have the potential to experience contentment (nearly) every day.

So what’s the key to happiness?

Harvard researchers explored this fundamental question, studying...


Is He the One? Why the Search Shouldn’t Be Easy

I’d love to meet the person who came up with the concept of the one because, let’s be honest, there can’t be just one person out there who is the perfect match for us. If that were true, then what happens to the people who have been married for 5, 10 or 20 years, and then their spouse dies unexpectedly? Was that their only chance at finding true love? I’d hope not.

That being said, I do...


5 Signs It’s Love, Not Lust

We live in a culture where the best of everything is at our fingertips: food, clothes, technology, you name it. So naturally why wouldn’t we apply this mentality to relationships?

The problem is that spending your time looking for the right one could lead to disappointment. Think about it: How many people do you need to meet before you know you’ve found your perfect match? The truth is it’s impossible to know. You could meet...


3 Ways To Unleash Your Inner Creative Genius

Why curiosity is the key to creativity When I was young, my mom said I was one of those babies who stared at everyone and everything. Constantly observing and taking it all in, I was fascinated by the simple things and was in constant awe of the world around me.

In some ways, I’m still like that. As a psychology major, I’m technically a professional people watcher. At parties, I’m notorious for throwing out random nerdy stats like, “Did...


It’s Okay If You Don’t Have It All Figured Out

Growing up, many of us have this picture of what our lives are going to look like – working in a job we love, making lots of money, having an incredible relationship – whatever it may be. But things don’t always pan out the way we hoped.

We look around and see people who “have it all”, wondering why that amazing job, relationship or more money hasn’t happened for us yet. So often this is the...

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