10 thoughts on “Tyler Perry Explains Why He Takes Care of Abusive Father

  • August 29, 2017 at 7:22 pm

    My heart goes out to Tyler Perry. Thats one incredible human being.

    • August 30, 2017 at 6:56 pm

      If I had money life that I would do the same for my mother. Since I don’t she gets nothing from me. Aye reading this I feel vindicated in my decision THANX!

      • September 1, 2017 at 12:39 pm

        ummm you dont need money to take care of your parent…. are you serious? nice excuse.

  • August 30, 2017 at 7:51 am

    Caring for the abuser is at the end of a long recovery process filled with hard work and sleepless nights. To accept an abuser’s good qualities can complete a recovery cycle, giving the survivor a deep seated peace.

    Abusers and survivors alike.., do the work.., heal.

  • August 30, 2017 at 6:02 pm

    Def not! I would be happy Karma jumped in. I would be happy he got his just desserts..

  • August 30, 2017 at 8:03 pm

    I have a whole new appreciation for Mr. Perry. He is doing what is morally right, more than many of us would do. He has become a wonderful human being despite the horrific abuse he endured. I commend him.

  • September 4, 2017 at 2:08 pm

    Based on these comments it’s relevant to say that you are NOT obligated to care for your abuser. You are not obligated to forgive them, and if you want or need to cut them out of your life you are not a lesser person. I’m glad Mr Perry is finding peace with this, but his story is not universal.

    • September 6, 2017 at 6:25 pm

      Anne, you raise an important point. I absolutely agree that I should have included a comment about the fact that NO ONE should feel obligated to care for their abuser. It’s definitely not universal but, again, that’s why I asked at the very beginning if my readers would be able to do it and explained that it would probably depend on a number of variables. I appreciate your comment!

  • December 19, 2017 at 12:41 am

    What if you were emotionally, mentally, physically, and sexually abused by your older brothers and constantly told you had to take care of your mom in her old age and on top of that this mother did nothing to protect you and basically allowed the brothers to get away with attempted murder of their baby sister on numerous occasions starting for age two getting gashes in head, left handing from a roof top, fed cold gasoline and told it was apple juice….the malignant narcissism and psychopathy runs so deep especially in the middle brother who was the sexual abuser/incestuous molester who was also caught so many time telling horrible lies to get out of being held accountable -bald face lies to anyone parents, teachers, principals, cops – no one could not be lied to by that abusive creep, battering of the sister in school and home etc etc – and the parents one drinking them selves numb and the mother oblivious acted powerless to stop to what the sons are doing and getting away with – at that point definitely NOT obligated to care for these people right – Ended up I did it though,took care of mom till the end, and smoked cigarette after cigarette to silence down the years of abuse, but quit 3 years before she passed, and then it all came pouring out – I had to talk about it, could not keep silent anymore.
    Truth was I did not really want to take care of my parents after all that went on, they treated me the way they did (my brothers) so they could get out of being responsible for anything, they are criminals in my mind, and I want nothing to do with them. I told the mother I forgave her years ago because she should of known better, but later realized she enabled it, triangulated and treated me like a door mat, like an object to be manipulated, mean while I had always pitted her as ignorant and not an active participant, but definitely an enabler. No one can ever blame me as the youngest for what I went through, no one should have to endure it< I did the best I could with the life I was given, the mother live peacefully without the sons around to a ripe old age of 90+. I tell my self that when the brothers die, the last of evil will finally stop walking the planet as a way to console my self. Hell will welcome them all.

    • December 19, 2017 at 12:54 am

      edit: *hanging from a roof top – pulled the ladder out from under just seconds after to look and saw it was there, when my foot was expecting to make contact it was gone – which meant he was lurking waiting for the right moment to remove it – and then my mother screaming”Put it back, you”ll kill her, she’ll break every bone in her body” It was a 10 foot drop and I was but seven or eight having gone up on the flat roof to retrieve my ball, there was cement to fall on to had I fallen, but out of nowhere adrenaline kicked in and I was able to pull my self back up and over the ledge. That was what life was like with that abuser brother around, always mysterious accidents, dead pets, injuries that he caused but never held accountable, always got away with which I lived in fear so when he told me he would kill me if I told when the sexual abuse began it was so absolutely disgustingly horrid I dont know how I didnt hang myself so I blocked it out but never forgot, and certainly will never forgive him, he should of been locked up forever in the childrens psych ward when he did his first brutal assault but the idiot mother went and got him out after three months even though father, me and other brother begged her not to – all because she saw something about some other psych ward she assumed the same conditions were going to be at the one he was in. Who knows how many other girls he was abusing in the neighborhood too, parents used to knock on the door to say keep him away from our daughters etc – a predator, that’s what I was subjected to, can hardly call these people human, they are the scourge of the earth.


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