LOS ANGELES - OCT 26:  Eva Amurri Martino arrives to the InStyleEva Amurri grew up in the spotlight, even if it was not shining directly on her. With a mother as famous as Susan Sarandon, Amurri understands that, with fame, there comes a certain level of criticism and a definite lack of privacy.

I’m sure, however, that she’s probably learning a bit more about how mean people can be right now.

Interestingly, she chose to share something with the world that she didn’t have to – her infant son suffered a horrible injury. It was a brave decision but, of course, she’s now suffering from some backlash but seems to be doing her best to handle it with maturity and perspective.

 

Back in October 2016, Amurri and her husband, Kyle Martino, welcomed their second child, Major. The little guy joined their daughter who was born in August 2014. After a successful home birth, things seemed great for the growing family but, this week, Amurri revealed that something terrible had happened.

Around Thanksgiving, the night nurse (some articles say “nanny”) fell asleep while caring for the newborn boy and dropped him. His skull hit the hardwood floor and was fractured. According to Amurri’s website, he suffered “bleeding on his brain” but is expected to be completely fine.

Amurri, on the other hand, is not.

A Mother’s Guilt

Naturally, Amurri feels guilty that she was not the one taking care of Major in the middle of the night. Of course, people on the internet, who know nothing about her life, are quick to agree. Many complain that they have had to care for their own babies through the night so why should she get to skip this rite of passage?

We could debate this all day but the fact of the matter is that all parents have choices and, ultimately, they have to decide what works for them. It’s none of our business as long as she’s not intentionally putting her children in harm’s way.

It sounds like she carefully vetted the caregiver but this accident happened anyway. This could happen to anyone and it sounds like she’s already being hard enough on herself since she has had to seek professional help and believes that she is suffering some “some kind of PTSD.”

To her critics, the actress responded with the following Instagram post:

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to everyone who has reached out with words of comfort or to share their own stories the past 24 hours. It is so moving to know there are so many of you who are wishing our sweet boy well, and who are rooting us on as a family. I’d like to say one thing, which is that Parenthood is not a competition. Nobody gets an award at the end of all of it for doing it the best or most perfect way. All that matters is how we make our children feel, how we feel about them, and how we feel about ourselves as parents. To those who have expressed judgement, cruelty, and criticism of me, my choices, or my fragility during this time- I’m not going to justify myself to you. But I sincerely wish that 2017 brings you enough self love and confidence that you no longer feel the need to tear down another person during their darkest moment. ❤🙏🏼✨ Peace, please. Xx EAM

I appreciate her honest and her bravery and I hope that this year will be one of healing for Amurri and her family.