LOS ANGELES - SEP 21: Terry Crews at the The Human Rights HeroActor, Terry Crews, shared a difficult revelation recently but it’s one that could affect many, many lives. Known for his funny, vibrant personality and incredibly impressive physique, Crews has been lauded as an ideal man, by many. For this reason, his confession about his porn addiction is brave and important.

Pornography Confession

The former NFL player posted three videos on his Facebook page and called the series “Dirty Little Secrets.” Considering how light-hearted and comedic his clips usually are, it was a surprise to see him get so candid about something so serious.

While filming himself in his car, he began the recording by saying: “For years, years, years, my dirty little secret was that I was addicted to pornography. It really, really messed up my life in a lot of ways.” Sadly, many men (and women) can relate.

He explained that his obsession with viewing sexually explicit material began when he was just 12-years-old and continued on into adulthood. It got so bad, in fact, that it threatened his marriage. He explained: “I had the biggest sense of entitlement ever. I felt the world owed me something. I felt like my wife owed me sex.”

“Some people say ‘Hey man, you can’t be really addicted to pornography,” he said. “If day turns into night and you are still watching you probably got a problem.” The 47-year-old believes that being able to watch pornography without anyone knowing allowed the addiction to grow. The secrecy was a major factor to things getting out of control.  

Crews has been married to his wife, Rebecca, since 1990 but things reached a boiling point about seven years ago. “My wife was literally like, ‘I don’t know you anymore. I’m out of here,'” Crews recalled. “I had to change because I realized, yo, this thing is a major, major problem. I literally had to go to rehab for it… I didn’t get help to get my wife back. I got help because I needed it,” he added.

“Worldwide Problem”

The Brooklyn Nine Nine actor points to the accessibility of pornography on handheld devices and refers to the situation as a “worldwide problem.” Speaking to his followers, he said: “I’m calling on men to be more accountable. There’s a lot of men out there blaming their wives for this.” he told listeners. To the spouses of men who are struggling with pornography addiction, he advised: “He has to do the work. He has to want to change.” Good advice.

Indeed, it feels as though more and more celebrities and people in power are sharing a warning about the dangers of pornography and what it’s doing to modern intimacy. This great Ted Talk by Ran Gavrieli details his own reasons for ditching internet porn.

If you, or someone you know, are struggling with an addiction to pornography, consider talking to a mental health provider or entering into a rehabilitative program. You do not have to suffer alone and things can get better!