Over the past few years, the Duggars appeared on their 19 Kids and Counting show on TLC and were considered, by some, a model for families. It was a shock, therefore, when it was discovered that eldest son, Josh, had molested several underage girls, including two of his own sisters. There has been much debate about how the parents handled the situation but, ultimately, their show was pulled from the air.
While some argued for forgiveness on behalf of Josh, another huge bombshell was dropped – during the Ashley Madison hack, it was revealed that Josh Duggar had two active accounts with the site offering affairs to married men and women. After confessing to a pornography addiction and cheating on his wife, Anna, Josh entered rehab. It is unclear whether he has completed his treatment but everyone is still reeling from the series of events.
With everything that has been going on, it surprised some when patriarch, Jim Bob, took to his family’s personal website to provide advice to men who are trying to raise kids. In his post, “A Note to Fathers,” he expressed grief that his wife, Michelle, had once suffered a miscarriage while on birth control and that they, as a couple, prayed to God for forgiveness.
After closing out the short post, Jim Bob added a P.S. saying the following: “A great way to start being the spiritual leader and coach of your home is to ask Jesus to forgive you for the things you have done wrong (1 John 1:9) and ask Him to take over the steering wheel of your life… Start protecting your family by removing books, magazines, television, or internet that have worldly or sensual content. Replace them with good things like wholesome music, biographies of great Christians, good old-fashioned family fun and games.”
On the one hand, it could be easily argued that Jim Bob should not be handing out advice since his own children have struggled. On the other hand, one could argue that he might have valuable insight after seeing what did and did not work in such a large family. As with any children, it’s impossible to know exactly why Josh Duggar did what he did but it may be in poor taste to dispense suggestions during a time when your own family is under such intense scrutiny.
What do you think? Is it inappropriate for Jim Bob Duggar to gives tips on how to be a better spiritual leader and father?