While Mother’s Day is a festive occasion for many, it’s also painful for those who cannot celebrate with that special woman in their life. It’s easier to accept when the lack of closeness is because of distance or a scheduling issue but it can be heartbreaking for those who have lost their mothers.
A young woman took to Taylor Swift’s Tumblr on Sunday and wrote: “I can’t spend this day with my mom because she’s in heaven. Last January, my mom passed away and a piece of my heart left with her. My mom was my best friend, the one I laughed with, the one I cried with, and the one I loved with my whole heart.” She credited Swift’s music for helping her out of a “sad place” while enduring “the hardest thing in the world.” The fan added: “Today’s going to be another hard day, but I know with you on my side I can get through anything.”
In a very touching move, the 25-year-old “Blank Space” singer replied and wrote: “You’ve lived through my worst fear. I’m so sorry you can’t spend today with her. It’s not fair, and there’s no reason why you should feel okay about it.”
For those who do not know, Swift’s mother, Andrea Finlay, is battling cancer. The Grammy-winning performer made the announcement last month in a Tumblr post. She explained that, this past Christmas, she asked her mother undergo preventative screening to put her mind at ease. Unfortunately, despite feeling perfectly healthy, Mrs. Finlay was diagnosed with an unspecified form of cancer and is currently undergoing treatment.
Swift has used the turn of events to stress the importance of screenings and encouraged others to remind their family members to see their doctor on a regular basis. She explained that having them “go get checked for cancer could possibly lead to an early diagnosis and easier battle… or peace of mind in knowing they’re healthy and there’s nothing to worry about.” Her mother will be taking some time off from supporting Swift and “may not be at as many shows this tour” as she fights “an important battle.”
Scientific research and treatment outcomes do support Swift’s claims. The American Cancer Society has created easy-to-follow guidelines for the early detection of several types of cancer. Like Swift, never hesitate to encourage (or annoy) your family members to be screened – you could save a life.