When is it acceptable for a woman to behave toward a man in such a way that is unacceptable for a man to behave toward her?
Is it ever?
I read a piece of of an interview Kim Kardashian gave London’s Sunday Times Style supplement the other day during which new mom Kardashian talks about her weight loss and post-baby fashion choices.
Overall, yawn, right? We’ve heard enough about Kardashian’s closet for a lifetime.
However, during the article Kardashian–seemingly proudly–admits when fiance Kanye West tells her when not to wear something:
You want your guy to think you’re really hot. I’ll put something on, and he’ll say, ‘No, that doesn’t look good’, and I’ll trust him.
I had two reactions.
My first reaction went something along the lines of “Oh no he didn’t!”
My second reaction–after I had some time to think about it–was “Wait…haven’t I done the same thing?”
Now, talented though he may be, Kanye’s overbearing, um, “confidence” doesn’t exactly endear him to a lot of us, and it’s probably for that reason my first reaction was so strong. I probably would’ve had the same reaction regardless of the man, but Kanye’s personality surely amplified it.
Yet, once I spent a few minutes away from the article, I realized I’ve offered the same “advice” before, and often unsolicited:
“That shirt doesn’t work.”
“You look better in primary colors.”
“How old are those pants?”
I realize I’m generalizing here, but a lot of times when we women make these comments, it’s somehow “normal.” We might be “nagging” or “controlling,” but overall no one’s really taken aback or offended.
But, when men say these kinds of things?
“Oh no they didn’t!”
What do you think about my reactions to Kanye’s statement? What do YOU think about his statements?
Have we set a standard for double standards, so to speak?