If you haven’t heard of Kingsley, let me give you a quick warning: He cusses, a lot. He’s not everyone’s cup of tea (I like him, my sister doesn’t dig it) and, due to the language, his videos aren’t safe for work.

With that being said, Kingsley is a popular YouTube personality (so popular, in fact, that earlier this year when he decided to stop wearing what had become his trademark hat in videos, “RIP Kingsley’s Hat” was a trending topic on Twitter within minutes of his posting the video). He’s wildly opinionated, makes random everyday events worthy of five-minute long rants, and has a contagious laugh – whether or not you like his material.

Kingsley also is gay, and he has a few things to say about bullying and the It Gets Better campaign.

Kingsley begins by making it clear he thinks the It Gets Better campaign is “amazing” and that it’s “awesome” the people who are making the videos are giving others hope.

However, he points out that some aspects of the movement are “extremely unrealistic,” and that because such a time when a higher level of tolerance exists isn’t guaranteed:

[…] what needs to be the focus is giving children or teenagers or whoever’s going through the bullying phase confidence. Not confidence that it will get better, though, but confidence that that they will be able to handle themselves or a situation regardless of if it gets better or not.

I agree with him.

Sure, I recognize that, overall, the It Gets Better campaign and the people making the videos, are talking about a time when things that were once so devastating to us will no longer matter or exist. Those bullies won’t be part of our lives. Our days will be filled with family members and friends who accept us for who we are, rewarding careers, and hobbies and adventures we love. Maybe we’ll have significant others and families of our own. Maybe we won’t. The point is, it will get better.

On the other hand, Kingsley emphasizes helping children and teens understand that while it will get better, we should attribute that to learning how to handle the situations now, rather than just waiting for those better days to arrive. He also points out that no matter how old we get and where we go in life, there are always going to be difficult or “mean” people. I wholeheartedly recognize that, too.

You can watch the entire It (Might) Get Better video over at Kingsley’s YouTube channel. Note, again, that due to language, it’s not safe for work or if there are young children within earshot.

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