Have you gone through a separation from a spouse or significant other? What about a divorce?
If so, any advice to offer Christina Aguilera?
The 29-year-old pop star (shown right during happier times) recently filed for divorce from her husband, marketing executive Jordan Bratman after five years of marriage. And, despite being rich and famous (because, for some reason, many people think that kind of life either prevents normal human emotions or takes away the person’s “right” to experience normal human emotions), Aguilera is struggling.
According to an upcoming Redbook interview due out in December and quoted by UsMagazine.com, Aguilera’s taking it one day at a time:
It’s not easy, and there have been a lot of tears and sadness […] Right now, I’m just trying to figure out how to make it through each day.
Fortunately, she has a circle of family and friends, including her two-year-old son, to keep her on the right path:
Thankfully, I have my mom and a small group of close friends who are there for me 24/7 and whom I can trust and depend on. On days when it feels impossible to even get out of bed, much less function as a mother, their support and encouragement have kept me moving forward.
It seems like their help is doing its job. Despite rumors that she checked in (and then out) of a Los Angeles hotel because California has no law that requires either party of a separated or soon-to-be divorced couple to move out of the home, the singer is still making time to have fun with her son, get back in the swing of performing live, and even hit the town with her dancers.
Overall, it sounds like she’s waging a serious battle against the sadness, and like she’s looking at the long term rather than focusing on a quick fix:
It’s impossible to redefine yourself and your life overnight.
So, back to the original question: If you’ve been through a separation or divorce, what advice would you offer Christina?