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7 Ways Trauma Victims Feel Stuck & Ways To Move On

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Have you ever experienced a traumatic situation?

Trauma is a powerful word.  Many people almost stagger when I mention that I believe they have experienced "trauma." When clients hear me label some of their most disturbing and unhealthy experiences as "trauma" they look puzzled.

Interestingly, some of my previous clients have come into my office already labeling their experiences as traumatic and seemed to be fully aware of the fact that they...
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10 Ways To Escape Toxic People



How would you know a person is "toxic?"

What about them or their behaviors would signal to you that they are toxic?

For me, a toxic person is someone who makes you feel a way that you are not, who undermines and mistreats you, and who may come across as kind to others and truly is very unkind to you.

A toxic person is someone who "infects" (like a disease) your thoughts, emotions, feelings, and behaviors...
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9 Signs You Are Being Emotionally Controlled & How To Stop It



Control.

Have you ever experienced it at the hands of someone close to you? What about with a spouse, colleague, a boss, a friend, or a family member? Sometimes you may even be controlled by a neighbor!

Control is a powerful word. It is a powerful force within the human race. It denotes a power to dictate, influence, maneuver, or direct.

If you look up the term "control," it is synonymous with intimidating words including: sway, authority,...
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Is Every Bad Event Traumatic? 11 Circumstances We Tend To Ignore

What do you know about trauma?

What makes a traumatic situation traumatic?

Emotional and psychological trauma affects about 26% of the child US population. About 60% of adults report experiencing trauma in some form as a child. When speaking with families who have experienced trauma, I often explain it to be an event or circumstance that negatively affects an individual who does not have the appropriate coping skills/tools to overcome the trauma.

Trauma can result from any...
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15 Things Not To Do With Someone With Borderline Personality

Do you know the things you should do or the things you should say to someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD)? If not, join the millions of people who don't. It is challenging to know what to say, how to say it, and when to say it to avoid problems, challenges, or conflicts with someone who has BPD. Things get even worse if there are other individuals with BPD around.

Despite these truths, compassion and...
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10 Barriers To Effective Mental Health Treatment

What is effective treatment? Would you be able to describe or define it if you had to?

Most people would struggle to define effective treatment because there is no real consensus on what that is. For many clients, "effective treatment" is being able to connect with the therapist, develop a trusting relationship, and heal from challenges faced in life. Sounds easy enough right? Not so much. Effective treatment cannot occur if there are...
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7 Signs of Racial “Group Think” and Group Polarization

Group Polarization

How did you feel this past weekend (Friday to Sunday) about the events taking place in Charlottesville Virginia? Did you watch the events? Did you follow the events online? Although it is the home of the University of Virginia, it became the home of pure racial tension, ignorance, and extreme identity fusion between the members of the group. In psychology, this is regarded as group polarization and group think.

This article will briefly...
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Manipulation: 15 Tactics A “User” Will Use To Control You

Can you think of a time in your life where you have been the victim of manipulation because the other person made it seem urgent that you respond, help, or get involved? You may have eventually found out that there was no urgency at all.

I call this behavior "psychological/emotional urgency." It is a "tactic" that users employ to manipulate in order to get you to respond. So how do you identify when a user is...
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