3 Myths & Challenges Of Family Therapy

Family therapy can truly become either a saving grace or a boxing ring. For many of my clients, it's a boxing ring full of traps, snakes, confusion, and drama. No matter how much I attempt to encourage my young client's to give it a try and be courageous, the session drama becomes a living, breathing soap opera.

Have you ever  been in family therapy or wondered what it would be like to attend a family session?

This article will address some questions about family therapy and explore some common myths.


Traumatic Experience:7 Signs You Are Stuck

Have you ever experienced a traumatic situation?

Trauma is a powerful word.  Many people almost stagger when I mention that I believe they have experienced "trauma." When clients hear me label some of their most disturbing and unhealthy experiences as "trauma" they look puzzled.

Interestingly, some of my previous clients have come into my office already labeling their experiences as traumatic and seemed to be fully aware of the fact that they have experienced trauma. But a select few shy away from the term.

I've concluded that most reservations is because trauma is difficult to understand. It is also difficult to heal from. Most people believe that because the event is past them, so too is the effects of the trauma. This is often furthest from the truth.

This article will focus on 7 ways trauma negatively affects us and offer tips on how to cope or move forward. 


Emotionally Unavailable Parents: 7 Ways They Impact You

Do you know an emotionally avoidant and detached parent/guardian?

If so, what makes that person so emotionally unavailable? Is it a mental illness, personality disorder, or something else such as a job, career goal, or educational endeavor? Whatever it is, having an emotionally unavailable parent or guardian can lead to a lifelong journey of unstable or failed relationships, emotional neediness, empty voids, identity confusion, poor attachment to others,  low self-esteem and self-efficacy (the feeling of mastery), etc.

Research has identified the importance of all infants and developing children having an appropriate, warm, and loving attachment to a mother figure during the developmental years. Without an appropriate, warm, and loving parental figure, children are likely to develop multiple personality, emotional, and psychological difficulties. For many of my clients, the absence of a loving parental figure has resulted in an increase in psychiatric symptoms, school and academic difficulties, fear of abandonment, and many other challenges.

This article will discuss the aftereffects or consequences of growing up without an emotionally available parent. 


Relational Boundaries: 12 Reasons You Should Set Them

Do you know how to make someone respect your boundaries?
Would you know what to say or do to keep your boundaries firm?

Most people struggle with boundaries because we, as a society, tend to see things at face value and with the intent of communicating in a peaceful manner. We hardly ever anticipate that someone would mistreat or misuse us.

But toxic relationships tend to be those relationships that push us far beyond our boundaries. Having a relationship with a toxic person is like standing on the edge of a ledge hoping not to fall.

Every aspect of that relationship is uncertain and you may find yourself experiencing a lot of insecurity. This article will discuss and highlight 12 characteristics of someone with unhealthy boundaries. *Video included.


Selfishness and Narcissism: 10 Ways To Overcome It

How would you describe a selfish individual?

What about them makes them selfish?

Have you taken notice to their entitlement, arrogance, and lack of empathy? If so, you're a few steps ahead of most people. Sadly, research suggests that narcissists and sociopaths have a tendency to deceive most people they come in contact with. Some research suggests that over 158 million people in the U.S. have been negatively impacted.

It is a real fight.

This article will discuss some of the tips I share with clients who are struggling with selfish, narcissistic individuals.


Traumatic Stress: 11 Circumstances We Fail To See As Traumatic

What do you know about trauma?

What makes a traumatic situation traumatic?

Emotional and psychological trauma affects about 26% of the child US population. About 60% of adults report experiencing trauma in some form as a child. When speaking with families who have experienced trauma, I often explain it to be an event or circumstance that negatively affects an individual who does not have the appropriate coping skills/tools to overcome the trauma.

Trauma can result from any circumstance that outweighs your ability to cope. Simply put, the event is terrifying, unnerving, and unexpected. For many of us, unexpected events can bring a host of anxious thoughts and feelings including depressed mood.

This article will discuss 11 situations we often don't realize are very traumatizing.


9 Signs Of Traumatic Bonding: “Why Do I Love My Abuser?”

Do you find yourself picturing a loved one in your mind?

Are you thinking about an experience that still hasn't left you?

After giving a presentation at a conference, in 2014, of parents and families who have lived through years of abuse, I recognized that not many people understood the full definition of traumatic bonding. The ones who did know what the term meant either minimized it or maximized it as an influence in their lives.

This article will discuss traumatic bonding and provides some examples of 9 signs you may be experiencing this phenomenon.


Dark World Of Suicide: 17 Things I’ve Learned

On average, every 2 weeks, someone jumps from San Fransisco's 4, 200 foot long Golden Gate Bridge. The Golden Gate Bridge is considered to be the "prime location" for carrying out a suicide. Why? Because the bridge not only sits high up above the waters and is 4, 200 feet long, but is also known to have "assisted" in the suicide of at least 3,000 or more people, according to research. This is a terrifying reality.

One of the reasons for why this is terrifying is because 3,000 people wanted to die. What about their lives was so hard that they couldn't stand living? This high number staggers me each time I look at it.

This article will discuss 17 things I have learned about suicide along the way as a psychotherapist. I will also add some details from research on suicide. 


Trauma: 9 Things We Fail To Understand

What comes to your mind when you hear the word trauma?

Do you think of physical or psychological trauma?

Do you have preconceived notions about how trauma may affect human development?

Sadly, many people struggle to understand the emotional, psychological, and/or physical toll trauma can have on overall health. Trauma tears families apart. It divides and sadly, in some cases, it conquers.

This article will highlight some of the things I have seen, in my profession and life, that is difficult for others to understand about trauma. I have narrowed these things down to 9 for the purpose of keeping things structured and succinct.


Trauma: 7 Signs You Haven’t Healed From Trauma

Have you ever experienced a traumatic situation?

Do you feel you have overcome the negative effects of the trauma?

Trauma is a powerful word.  Many clients who see me almost stagger when I mention I believe they have experienced trauma. When clients hear me label some of their most disturbing and unhealthy experiences as trauma they look puzzled.

Interestingly, most people are coming around to labeling their experiences as traumatic. But some people struggle with the idea that their experience(s) may have been traumatic because these people identify trauma as sexual or physical abuse, domestic violence, or a serious car crash.

This article will focus on7  signs that you haven't healed from your trauma and offer tips on how to cope or move forward.