A Fragmented Self: 8 Misconceptions of Childhood Trauma

What is emotional and psychological trauma? How would you describe it?

If I were to quiz you on trauma would you know how to define it? You might say something like trauma is a negative experience that you cannot forget or move past. I would give you an A+ but also challenge you to consider different situations in which trauma occurs and the impact on the victim.

For example, we all know that a child who has been abused and neglected or has seen something horrific would most likely be traumatized.

But would you also consider a 3-month-old baby who has been severely neglected to be traumatized? Would you consider an adult, who has a history of trauma, to still suffer from the trauma?

These questions will be answered in this article including a video on the fragmented pieces of themselves trauma victims are left with. 


Why Black History Month Matters To Psychotherapy

What do you know about Black History Month?

What do you know about Black History Month and psychotherapy?

Considering that I am a multi-race individual I can tell you that there are a lot of dynamics to digest for people of color during Black History Month.

The dynamics become more complex and interwoven when we integrate the topic of psychology.

Sadly, there are many individuals of color in America who suffer from psychiatric and behavioral disorders but who tend to go overlooked as a result of a lack of mental healthcare.

In this article, I will discuss some of those disparities and provide you with a video of the complex view of this month.


How Mental Health Providers Diagnose: 6 Main Factors

When you are getting a diagnosis from your doctor what typically runs through your mind?

Are you thinking that your doctor couldn't possibly have come up with the correct answer so fast?

Are you concerned that you are being misdiagnosed?

If so, you can join the millions of Americans who have thought and felt the same way. It can feel like a complete loss of power and control to accept a diagnosis from someone who has only known you for 20 minutes.

In this video, I discuss the process most mental health professionals and mental health specialists use to arrive at your diagnosis.


MLK Day: 5 Qualities Our Society Truly Needs Today

When you think of Dr. Martin Luther King today, what comes to mind for you?

Do you find yourself wishing for the same society of peace, unity, love, and acceptance that Dr. King had fought for?

I know I do. The audacity of some to internalize prejudice, discrimination, and hatred within their heart, mind, and soul. As if life isn't hard enough, we have to fight for the equal right to live.

This article is written (and published) to acknowledge a man with class, dignity, and honor. It is also written to remind us of the power of grace.


10 Ways To Assess & Respond To Narcissists

How would you describe a selfish individual?

What about them makes them selfish?

Have you taken notice to their entitlement, arrogance, and lack of empathy? If so, you're a few steps ahead of most people. Sadly, research suggests that narcissists and sociopaths have a tendency to deceive most people they come in contact with. Some research suggests that over 158 million people in the U.S. have been negatively impacted.

It is a real fight.

This article will discuss some of the tips I share with clients who are struggling with selfish, narcissistic individuals.


Stalkers Among Us: 5 Types You Probably Don’t Know

When you think of the word stalker what comes to mind?

Do you think violence and vengefulness?

Do you think fear on the part of the stalker?

Most people would agree the first thing that comes to mind when they hear the word stalker is violence and vengefulness. Only a rare number of people would consider a stalker to be someone they know. But the reality is that most stalkers are neighbors, friends, family, and even coworkers.

In this article, I will be discussing stalking. You will also get a bonus video which provides greater insight into this topic. 


After The Holidays: 5 Stages Of Grief

How did your holiday go this year?

Are you feeling rejuvenated or exhausted? 

If you are feeling exhausted you are not alone. Many of my clients have reported feeling this same way. And I can join the group as well.

The holidays can be a beautiful time of the year, depending on what is going on in your life during that time. For those of us who have experienced hardship, grief, or loss and trauma over the holidays, the celebration can feel like a slap in the face.

Sadly, some people feel deceived, angered, and frustrated after the holiday because hours of family fun, joyous singing and engaging in the artistic beauty of the holiday or sharing many conversations with family did not happen. For these individuals, the holidays is a "rip-off."

In this article, I will discuss the feeling of grief and loss after the holidays and use the 5 stages of grief to help you understand what you may be going through right now.


6 Coping Skills For The Holidays

How did you spend your Christmas this year?

Were you happy to see it come? Or were you happy to see it go?

Christmas is certainly the most beautiful time of the year. But most people struggle with conceptualizing how to celebrate a holiday when so many things are going on in the world and in one's life.

In this video, I discussed a few ways to cope with Christmas. I would like to share these with you here.


Ready For Christmas? My Top 4 Reasons You Avoid It

Are you ready for Christmas and the New Year?

Are you in the "Christmas spirit" this year?

Sadly, a lot of people are struggling with this because of everything we, as a nation, have had to experience (i.e, police brutality and murder, massacres, national violence, the opioid epidemic, etc.). We also cannot forget that we have our own lives to manage.

In this article, I will discuss my top 4 reasons for why most people struggle (including my new and older clients) with Christmas.


Inter-Generational Trauma: 7 Attitudes That Keep You Stuck

Do you think you may have experienced inter-generational trauma in your family?

Do you think it made a lasting impact on your behaviors, perceptions, and level of motivation in life?

If so, you are certainly not alone.

In this article (and webinar), I will be discussing what this looks like and the various ways it negatively impacts your development throughout the lifespan. It doesn't just stop the moment you become an adult. Inter-generational trauma is a "lifespan" issue.