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7 Relational Challenges Of Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) seems to be one of the most challenging disorders for mental health professionals. One reason is because individuals with BPD struggle with maintaining healthy, equal, and emotionally stable relationships. Relational challenges don't just happen with family members, friends, or loved ones. Relational challenges happen in the client-therapist, student-teacher, or employee-employer relationship. In fact, research suggests that almost all relationships are challenged (in some way) by the disorder.

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8 Major Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

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What do you think of when you hear the term "borderline?" What comes to mind for you? For a lot of people, "borderline" means "split," "switchable," "unstable," or "unsure and confused." In some ways this is true. Individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) struggle with managing emotions, making proper decisions, controlling their impulses, focuses on the broader picture (ignoring the narrow, negative view of things), and maintaining positive...
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10 Things You Should Say, 10 Things Not To Say

Mental health is a tricky topic. It is tricky because many people lack knowledge about what it is, how it is treated, and what the person who is struggling needs. Most of this lack of knowledge is the result of a society disinterested in learning about "mysterious phenomenon." In other words, society steers clear of topics that are difficult to understand and challenging to examine. It's so much easier to tackle something on limited knowledge...
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5 Things You Didn’t Know About Christians and Depression

Do you know (or attend ) a church where mental health is not spoken of as much as it should be? How does this affect you or your perspective of who God is? Sadly, most people who are suffering from depression or a mental health condition stay away from the Church. Why? Because some churches foster a very judgmental, arrogant, and uncaring atmosphere that can make someone suffering from depression feel ousted, unworthy, and even...
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Treatment: 15 Reasons Therapy Isn’t Working


What has therapy been like for you (or someone you know)? Do you have positive or negative experiences to draw from? Sadly, many of my current clients have shared their negative experiences of counseling with me. In many of the cases I hear, I notice not only unethical behavior from the therapist, but also uncaring behaviors.

I absolutely love my field and I love people. I want to give them the support they need. But, unfortunately,...
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Borderline Personality Disorder: 8 Ways Families Can Worsen Symptoms

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Do you know someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) who seems to worsen when an overly emotional or argumentative family member creates a problem, pushes a boundary, or becomes upset? Have you yourself experienced this unhealthy pattern?

Sadly, I have seen this pattern in so many families. In fact, there was a time, shortly after beginning my career 7-8 years ago, I became completely burned out by perplexing family dynamics in...
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Emotional Chaos: 5 Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

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Do you know someone with borderline personality disorder? Were you diagnosed yourself? If so,what has been one of the most unsettling features of the diagnosis? For many of my young female clients, the most terrifying part of the disorder, for them, is the emotional chaos and disconnectedness that can occur in moments of intense emotions.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a very challenging and complex disorder to treat. Dr. Blaise...
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Avoiding Toxic People: Gas-Lighting & Love-Bombing

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Do you know a toxic person? Have you experienced the condemnation, the confusion, the hurt, the blood-sucking behaviors and personalities, and the mind-games of the toxic person? If so, join the millions of people who have. Sadly, most people experience some kind of truly toxic person in their lives at some point. We're not immune from experiencing toxic people. In fact,...
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Suicide: Why You Should Re-Evaluate “13 Reasons Why”

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Have you heard about the new series"13 Reasons Why" which discusses adolescent suicide and could be seen as romanticizing the idea of suicide? If not, I discuss some of it in this article and encourage you to explore what it means for you.

One of the things I found myself frightened by, while training to be a psychotherapist, is the reality that so many within our population (primarily adolescents) seek...
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Toxic People: 15 Things You Need To Escape

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How would you describe a toxic person? How would you identify them in your life? For many of us, the toxicity of a person may not be evident until the last minute. Until the moment when the "honeymoon period" or "love-bombing" phases are over. In other words, the toxicity of an unhealthy person may not become visible to you until you and the other person within the relationship begin to relax...
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