Traumatic bonding is an old term. Sadly, it is "new" for a lot of people because it isn't spoken about as often as it should be. That's a problem. Last week we began the discussion of traumatic bonding. We discussed what it is and some of the things that influence and perpetuate it. In today's discussion, we will look at 9 common signs of being emotionally and psychologically bonded to the abuser.
Traumatic bonding. Neglect. Psychological abuse. What comes to mind when you hear these terms? Do you find yourself picturing a loved one in your mind? Are you thinking about an experience that still hasn't left you? After giving a presentation at a conference, in 2014, of parents and families who have lived through years of abuse, I recognized that not many people understood the full definition of traumatic bonding. The ones who did know what the term meant either minimized it or maximized it as an influence in their lives. This article will discuss traumatic bonding and provides some examples of 9 signs you may be experiencing this phenomenon.
What do you think of when you hear the term "borderline?" What do you think of the term borderline? For most people, borderline signifies split person," "switchable," "unstable," or "unsure behavior pattern. It isn't always easy to identify the disorder, especially among laymen. This article will discuss some common signs of BPD that often confuses those in relation to the person with BPD. I will discuss common BPD symptoms and codependency in the included videos as well. Note: It is important to keep in mind that BPD can also be frustrating for the person experiencing it.
Have you noticed that some of the most compassionate, understanding, modest, and intuitive people seem to be those who have suffered, been oppressed, or are in constant search for life’s ultimate meaning? I have and I find that it is an interesting phenomenon. As stated in a previous article, it was not until rain and “dark-valleys” appeared in my life that I grew and could see my potential. This article will discuss the upside of pain and will introduce tips on seeking a trauma therapist.
Did you know that severe/untreated mental illness accounts for between 5% and 15% of community violence, according to the Treatment Advocacy Center? Did you know that prisons across the nation are filled with those who have severe mental illnesses? It's a fact that severe and untreated mental illness can result in criminal behavior. We cannot, for fear of stigma, minimize this. We do NEED to ensure we provide clear and correct facts. In this article, I discuss some reasons for why we miss the psychology of mass murderers. We tend to minimize their issue to "bad behavior" or "callousness" without considering what really went wrong.
Do you know someone who tends to take every little thing you say personally and holds a long-term grudge against you? What do you think the problem is? Is it the offense itself or could it possibly be the personality of the offended? Sometimes it's both. The negative effects of living with a rageful, angry, selfish, and domineering person can be significant. The emotional, psychological, and physiological effects can also be great. A raging personality can also turn into a calm and polite personality depending on the situation. This is what keeps everyone confused and unassuming. For many people living with this type of personality, they often wish others could truly see the truth. It is certainly not easy to live with or cope with this type of personality and emotional lability. This article will discuss how to cope with this type of personality and what tools you can use as your best weapon of defense.
Have you ever heard of the term transference? Do you know what it means? Would you know you are experiencing it if you came across someone who reminded you of someone else? When I ask these questions during my group seminars for parents I often get blank stares. Those blank stares typically occur because the parents either don't know what transference is, have never heard of it before, or has little insight into if and when it is happening. This article (and video) will discuss the topic of transference and broach the topic of transference you may be experiencing with your very own therapist.
What do you know about trauma? What makes a traumatic situation traumatic? Emotional and psychological trauma affects about 26% of the child US population. About 60% of adults report experiencing trauma in some form as a child. When speaking with families who have experienced trauma, I often explain it to be an event or circumstance that negatively affects an individual who does not have the appropriate coping skills/tools to overcome the trauma. Trauma can result from any circumstance that outweighs your ability to cope. Simply put, the event is terrifying, unnerving, and unexpected. This article will discuss 11 situations we often don't realize are very traumatizing for a lot of people.
Control. Have you ever experienced it at the hands of someone close to you? What about with a spouse, colleague, a boss, a friend, or a family member? Sometimes you may even be controlled by a neighbor! Control is a powerful word. It is a powerful force within the human race. It denotes a power to dictate, influence, maneuver, or direct. If you look up the term "control," it is synonymous with intimidating words including: sway, authority, jurisdiction, command, dominance, mastery, sovereignty, supremacy, or ascendancy. These words are certainly intimidating to say the least, especially if you feel you are being controlled by someone unnecessarily. This article will discuss 9 signs of emotional and psychological control and ways to overcome it.
Do you know what compassion fatigue is? If yes, where did you hear the term? What do you think the term means? For many people who work in the helping profession as well as social service jobs like policing or FBI work compassion fatigue is likely to occur at some point in their lives. For those, such as myself, who work in the helping profession, compassion fatigue might also accompany burn-out. It isn't surprising that some individuals who care for the well-being of family members who have medical or mental health conditions also experience compassion fatigue and burn-out. In this article, I will be discussing compassion fatigue and burnout as both of these terms tend to mean different things.