Compassion Fatigue vs. Burn-out: 3 Tools That May Help

Do you know what compassion fatigue is? If yes, where did you hear the term? What do you think the term means? For many people who work in the helping profession as well as social service jobs like policing or FBI work compassion fatigue is likely to occur at some point in their lives. For those, such as myself, who work in the helping profession, compassion fatigue might also accompany burn-out. It isn't surprising that some individuals who care for the well-being of family members who have medical or mental health conditions also experience compassion fatigue and burn-out. In this article, I will be discussing compassion fatigue and burnout as both of these terms tend to mean different things.


Psychotherapy: 9 Possible Reasons Why It Isn’t Working

What would you consider to be effective and helpful psychotherapy? Would you be able to describe or define it if you had to? Many of my clients (current and previous) have stated they could. But when asked to define it, they struggle. One of the reasons may be because therapy is not 100% dependent upon the therapist providing a service. Psychotherapy is dependent on "group effort" (i.e., the effort of both client and therapist). Without the cooperation and consent of the client (or the client's guardian), therapy can be a losing battle. This article will discuss some of the barriers that often prevents effective treatment from occurring in therapy. 


10 Ways to Manage Unhealthy and Toxic People

How would you know that a person is “toxic?” Would you know that a person is toxic right away? The word toxic is a very common word in today's society. It's even more popular online where you can find millions of articles on relationships and ways to survive in them. Sadly, despite frequent searches online about this topic, it's easy to struggle to identify the behaviors of a toxic person until it is way too late. This article will provide some suggestions on how to deal with these kinds of personalities. 


No Signs? 9 Reasons We Miss The Psychology of Mass Murderers

Did you know that severe/untreated mental illness accounts for between 5% and 15% of community violence, according to the Treatment Advocacy Center? Did you know that prisons across the nation are filled with those who have severe mental illnesses? It's a fact that severe and untreated mental illness can result in criminal behavior. We cannot, for fear of stigma, minimize this. We do NEED to ensure we provide clear and correct facts. In this article, I discuss some reasons for why we miss the psychology of mass murderers. We tend to minimize their issue to "bad behavior" or "callousness" without considering what really went wrong.


Facing A Crisis: 2 Tips On Steps You Should Take

How do you feel about the most recent traumatic event in the nation?Do you know what I am referring to?If not, don't feel bad as many of my clients and I can hardly keep up with all of the trauma and terror upon the land. The recent Florida school shooting that killed 17 youths has traumatized many parents and their families. The kids/students who witnessed this tragedy will never see school the same way again. In fact, they will never be the same. Despite planning, training, and education for school staff, managing the crisis was difficult. For many families, including my international clients, they are terrified of a copy-cat event that may render them completely helpful the second time around.   In this article and video, I will be discussing crisis planning and the 3 ways of planning I believe is helpful to understand.


38 Ways To Relax And Change Your Imbalanced Thinking

Do you know someone who is a Type A personality? Do you know anyone who is a little of both? Most people would say that I am rather laid back and calm, although my family would say "you are a ball of anxiety!" For most of us, we are a little of both at certain periods in our lives and even ages. A dear friend of mine use to be so calm, even in a fire he could be calm! Now, at 33, he is a ball of nerves. I'm sure you can relate. This article will discuss ways to de-stress and change imbalnaced thought patterns that either lead to or worsen symptoms of depression. I also offer you my free list of 38 ways to relax.


Relationships: 12 Ways To Spot Unhealthy Boundaries

Do you know how to make someone respect your boundaries? Would you know what to say or do to keep your boundaries firm? Most people struggle with boundaries because we, as a society, tend to see things at face value and with the intent of communicating in a peaceful manner. We hardly ever anticipate that someone would mistreat or misuse us. This article will discuss and highlight 12 characteristics of someone with unhealthy boundaries. All of these characteristics are based on personal and professional experience. Some of these are also based on the experience of clients. 'Stay tuned for next week's article on ways to combat individuals attempting to push your boundaries.


Balanced Thinking: 5 Ways To Use Your “Wise Mind”

Have you ever been in therapy? Know someone who is (or was)? Therapy can be both a positive or negative experience, depending on the kind of therapist you have and their level of experience. I've had clients discuss both experiences and unfortunately, many of my clients felt the techniques they were taught in the past were nothing but theories. Ideas are good until they have to be tested out. When ideas come face to face with reality, they either stand up to the pressure or show themselves to be nothing more than mere conjecture. In this article, I will share with you a technique I have found most helpful with my depressed and anxious clients. I will also offer you my free list of 38 ways to relax.

Adult Mental Health

10 Signs Of Having An Emotionally Unstable/Unavailable Parent

What would you characterize as an emotionally detached or unavailable parent? Would you know what an emotionally detached and unavailable parent is? For most people who have endured an unstable, abusive, or emotionally unavailable parent, emotional detachment is an inability of the parent to meet their deepest needs, relate to them, or provides support and comfort when needed. I previously wrote a similar article on this topic in March of 2016. The responses from readers and supporters is astounding. It's also heartbreaking to know that a lot of people feel their childhood was limited by an emotionally unavailable parent (to read those comments, click here). This article will review the topic of emotionally unavailable and avoidant parents. I will also discuss this topic in a video for the launch of my upcoming YouTube channel 1/5/18. I encourage you to sign up to receive notifications on similar videos.


Delusional Disorder: 8 Ways To Communicate Without Fighting

Would you know how to communicate with someone who has really strong beliefs that are difficult to deny, push against, or disregard? In other words, are you able to express your disbelief of the other person's delusion without getting into an argument? If not, you are not alone. A lot of people who have delusional beliefs can be difficult to manage. In fact, many struggle to see things from another person's perspective which creates a narrowed, fixated mind. This article (and video) will discuss delusions and ways to cope with someone who isn't easy to communicate with.