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Borderline Personality: 7 Powerful Ways Families Can Cope With Traits

What is your first impression when you hear the term Borderline personality disorder (BPD)? For many people, the term is fraught with stigma and negative connotations as a result of years of unhealthy representations and lack of research. But with the advent of continuing research, new clinical findings, and an increase in psycho-education about the disorder, things are looking up in terms of understanding BPD better.

With more knowledge and understanding of how behaviors,...
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7 Ways Halloween May Negatively Affect Trauma Victims

What do you like (or not like) about Halloween? For me, I have firm feelings that most likely will never change. On one hand I can understand the interest and amusement inherent in deviating from the natural, monotonous, and boring daily lives most of us feel we live sometimes. I also understand the joy inherent in watching children dress up, get candy, and enjoy the thrills of fantasy. But what  I don't like about...
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Dysfunctional Communication: 6 Ways To Calm An Emotional Storm

Have you ever had to deal with someone who just wouldn't stop yelling, screaming, and insulting you (or someone you know)? It isn't an easy thing to cope with. In fact, it's very humiliating, demeaning, and embarrassing. I work with a lot of families who display difficult patterns of behavior at home, in the community, and in my office. It isn't easy to change a pattern of behavior that becomes ingrained in the relationship and...
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12 Incorrect Beliefs About Psychotherapy

Have you ever been in therapy? If so, what did you like about it? What did you dislike about it?

Psychotherapy isn't as cut and dry as it may appear to some. You don't just go in to an office and talk. You can do that with a friend. Psychotherapy includes the building of a professional relationship with boundaries and goals of the client to improve, learn, and grow. It is a relationship in which...
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7 Common Truths About Domestic Violence

Have you (or someone you know) experienced domestic violence? If so, was it long-term or short-term?

Domestic violence (DV) or Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) is a common occurrence in today's society. Although often hidden, domestic violence affects about 1 in 3 men and 1 in 4 men, according to The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

This article will discuss domestic violence and provide a podcast interview I was invited to by Laura Reagan, LCSW-C from TherapyChapt.

*TRIGGER...
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7 Ways Trauma Victims Feel Stuck & Ways To Move On

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Have you ever experienced a traumatic situation?

Trauma is a powerful word.  Many people almost stagger when I mention that I believe they have experienced "trauma." When clients hear me label some of their most disturbing and unhealthy experiences as "trauma" they look puzzled.

Interestingly, some of my previous clients have come into my office already labeling their experiences as traumatic and seemed to be fully aware of the fact that they...
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10 Ways To Escape Toxic People



How would you know a person is "toxic?"

What about them or their behaviors would signal to you that they are toxic?

For me, a toxic person is someone who makes you feel a way that you are not, who undermines and mistreats you, and who may come across as kind to others and truly is very unkind to you.

A toxic person is someone who "infects" (like a disease) your thoughts, emotions, feelings, and behaviors...
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9 Signs You Are Being Emotionally Controlled & How To Stop It



Control.

Have you ever experienced it at the hands of someone close to you? What about with a spouse, colleague, a boss, a friend, or a family member? Sometimes you may even be controlled by a neighbor!

Control is a powerful word. It is a powerful force within the human race. It denotes a power to dictate, influence, maneuver, or direct.

If you look up the term "control," it is synonymous with intimidating words including: sway, authority,...
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Is Every Bad Event Traumatic? 11 Circumstances We Tend To Ignore

What do you know about trauma?

What makes a traumatic situation traumatic?

Emotional and psychological trauma affects about 26% of the child US population. About 60% of adults report experiencing trauma in some form as a child. When speaking with families who have experienced trauma, I often explain it to be an event or circumstance that negatively affects an individual who does not have the appropriate coping skills/tools to overcome the trauma.

Trauma can result from any...
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15 Things Not To Do With Someone With Borderline Personality

Do you know the things you should do or the things you should say to someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD)? If not, join the millions of people who don't. It is challenging to know what to say, how to say it, and when to say it to avoid problems, challenges, or conflicts with someone who has BPD. Things get even worse if there are other individuals with BPD around.

Despite these truths, compassion and...
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