Trauma: 9 Things We Fail To Understand

What comes to your mind when you hear the word trauma?

Do you think of physical or psychological trauma?

Do you have preconceived notions about how trauma may affect human development?

Sadly, many people struggle to understand the emotional, psychological, and/or physical toll trauma can have on overall health. Trauma tears families apart. It divides and sadly, in some cases, it conquers.

This article will highlight some of the things I have seen, in my profession and life, that is difficult for others to understand about trauma. I have narrowed these things down to 9 for the purpose of keeping things structured and succinct.


Trauma: 7 Signs You Haven’t Healed From Trauma

Have you ever experienced a traumatic situation?

Do you feel you have overcome the negative effects of the trauma?

Trauma is a powerful word.  Many clients who see me almost stagger when I mention I believe they have experienced trauma. When clients hear me label some of their most disturbing and unhealthy experiences as trauma they look puzzled.

Interestingly, most people are coming around to labeling their experiences as traumatic. But some people struggle with the idea that their experience(s) may have been traumatic because these people identify trauma as sexual or physical abuse, domestic violence, or a serious car crash.

This article will focus on7  signs that you haven't healed from your trauma and offer tips on how to cope or move forward. 


A Fragmented Self: 8 Misconceptions of Childhood Trauma

What is emotional and psychological trauma? How would you describe it?

If I were to quiz you on trauma would you know how to define it? You might say something like trauma is a negative experience that you cannot forget or move past. I would give you an A+ but also challenge you to consider different situations in which trauma occurs and the impact on the victim.

For example, we all know that a child who has been abused and neglected or has seen something horrific would most likely be traumatized.

But would you also consider a 3-month-old baby who has been severely neglected to be traumatized? Would you consider an adult, who has a history of trauma, to still suffer from the trauma?

These questions will be answered in this article including a video on the fragmented pieces of themselves trauma victims are left with. 


Why Black History Month Matters To Psychotherapy

What do you know about Black History Month?

What do you know about Black History Month and psychotherapy?

Considering that I am a multi-race individual I can tell you that there are a lot of dynamics to digest for people of color during Black History Month.

The dynamics become more complex and interwoven when we integrate the topic of psychology.

Sadly, there are many individuals of color in America who suffer from psychiatric and behavioral disorders but who tend to go overlooked as a result of a lack of mental healthcare.

In this article, I will discuss some of those disparities and provide you with a video of the complex view of this month.


How Mental Health Providers Diagnose: 6 Main Factors

When you are getting a diagnosis from your doctor what typically runs through your mind?

Are you thinking that your doctor couldn't possibly have come up with the correct answer so fast?

Are you concerned that you are being misdiagnosed?

If so, you can join the millions of Americans who have thought and felt the same way. It can feel like a complete loss of power and control to accept a diagnosis from someone who has only known you for 20 minutes.

In this video, I discuss the process most mental health professionals and mental health specialists use to arrive at your diagnosis.


MLK Day: 5 Qualities Our Society Truly Needs Today

When you think of Dr. Martin Luther King today, what comes to mind for you?

Do you find yourself wishing for the same society of peace, unity, love, and acceptance that Dr. King had fought for?

I know I do. The audacity of some to internalize prejudice, discrimination, and hatred within their heart, mind, and soul. As if life isn't hard enough, we have to fight for the equal right to live.

This article is written (and published) to acknowledge a man with class, dignity, and honor. It is also written to remind us of the power of grace.


10 Ways To Assess & Respond To Narcissists

How would you describe a selfish individual?

What about them makes them selfish?

Have you taken notice to their entitlement, arrogance, and lack of empathy? If so, you're a few steps ahead of most people. Sadly, research suggests that narcissists and sociopaths have a tendency to deceive most people they come in contact with. Some research suggests that over 158 million people in the U.S. have been negatively impacted.

It is a real fight.

This article will discuss some of the tips I share with clients who are struggling with selfish, narcissistic individuals.


Stalkers Among Us: 5 Types You Probably Don’t Know

When you think of the word stalker what comes to mind?

Do you think violence and vengefulness?

Do you think fear on the part of the stalker?

Most people would agree the first thing that comes to mind when they hear the word stalker is violence and vengefulness. Only a rare number of people would consider a stalker to be someone they know. But the reality is that most stalkers are neighbors, friends, family, and even coworkers.

In this article, I will be discussing stalking. You will also get a bonus video which provides greater insight into this topic. 


After The Holidays: 5 Stages Of Grief

How did your holiday go this year?

Are you feeling rejuvenated or exhausted? 

If you are feeling exhausted you are not alone. Many of my clients have reported feeling this same way. And I can join the group as well.

The holidays can be a beautiful time of the year, depending on what is going on in your life during that time. For those of us who have experienced hardship, grief, or loss and trauma over the holidays, the celebration can feel like a slap in the face.

Sadly, some people feel deceived, angered, and frustrated after the holiday because hours of family fun, joyous singing and engaging in the artistic beauty of the holiday or sharing many conversations with family did not happen. For these individuals, the holidays is a "rip-off."

In this article, I will discuss the feeling of grief and loss after the holidays and use the 5 stages of grief to help you understand what you may be going through right now.


6 Coping Skills For The Holidays

How did you spend your Christmas this year?

Were you happy to see it come? Or were you happy to see it go?

Christmas is certainly the most beautiful time of the year. But most people struggle with conceptualizing how to celebrate a holiday when so many things are going on in the world and in one's life.

In this video, I discussed a few ways to cope with Christmas. I would like to share these with you here.