5 thoughts on “9 Signs Of Psychological and Emotional Manipulation

  • May 2, 2018 at 5:44 am

    I was with my ex partner for 11years & until he left me for another woman I had no idea what so ever that he actually hated me.
    I was abused & neglected as a child & I now see I find it difficult to know if I’m loved or not.
    I’m easily duped unfortunately & im prime target for predators I’ve had enough of ppl just abusing or mistreating me so much so I’ve become antisocial with no fam or friends.
    It’s the only way I can actually feel safe but it hurts that I’m still suffering , I can’t seem to catch a break .
    My ex leaving was out of the blue & I was totally devastated.
    I’ve tried for 4 years to try & piece myself back together but I don’t even know who I was before all of this.
    He totally devalued me , I wasn’t allowed to express my emotions & now I’m just lost depressed confused & heartbroken.
    Heartbroken in the sense that someone could hurt me so bad and not feel any remorse. There’s no help for me either I’ve tried & tried & tried but the mental health services offered here are none existent . I’m slowly giving up :o(

    • May 9, 2018 at 10:42 pm

      Hi JustMe,
      So sorry to hear you are going through this. This is painful to say the least. You are certainly trying to cope by using isolation but this will prove to be a lonely and difficult road.

      As an introvert, I am recharged when I am alone so that when I am not alone I can function. But there are also times when being around people pulls me out of a low mood mindset. Being afraid to connect with people can lead you to a long life of staying “stuck” in low moods, anxiety, and isolation. That’s a bad place to be but I certainly don’t blame you. It’s your only way to protect yourself now.

      Perhaps in time, you may find it necessary to seek out counseling again for yourself. Have you thought of searching for a therapist who offers online or face-time sessions? Some therapists offer national or international online/face-time sessions which would give you access to services you may not have access to around your area.

      A good trauma therapist may help you process childhood trauma as well as your long-term relationship. There may be some correlations within your relationships. You may learn ways to protect yourself in the future and explore any signs that your relationship was headed for an abrupt end.

  • May 20, 2018 at 8:24 am

    Well I have had bosses that would not let you even talk to other staff. Getting additional training was also seen as contemptuous. Also how and what to type exactly.

    I had an ex that liked to be late to pretty much everything so my family couldn’t bear it. Also what not to wear to his court appearance.

    My local council is also controlling. Where to park, where to cross the road, what to put in the trash, what trees we can plant then they expect us to have a street party.

  • June 20, 2018 at 11:10 am

    I guess what I am is a chronically homeless person, who will take help from anyone. Usually abusive people, because I am scared, and nobody can or will get me an apt
    I am not looking for handouts. I’ve worked my whole life , bow I’m disabled and renting a room from someone who is gaslighting me. I need help. Ive been suicidal so many times it’s not funny. I have 3 children whom, I don’t get to see, because I dont want them seeing me hurt, or them getting hurt them selves. I go to a pcp, therapist, and a psychiatrist. I am an empath so the shelter life tears me apart. I have emotional and physical disabilities yet I can’t get in anywhere. I can’t even make phone calls, without him listening in. He’s a narcissist, sociopath. And I am stuck here, losing more hope everyday. First it was “just” verbal things, now it’s starting to turn into financial ones. I want to be alone, but I can’t get there.

    Hopeless in Mass.

  • August 14, 2019 at 11:36 pm

    I have dealt with dysfunction so much in my life it is easy to spot in others. Dysfunction in family including myself was the beginning. I experienced bad partnerships and grew from them. I have dealt with controlling employers at which my health became an issue. I had distanced myself from family for these reasons, I love them but disrespect and one sided views are no longer acceptable to me. I have healed a great deal, I have worked on myself for years, understanding my part in the family situations that have arisen in the past and I refuse to move backwards in this manner. I will continue to show respect to others family and otherwise, but my boundaries come first now. If at any time a possibility of a relationship is possible I refuse to deal with jealousy, insecurities that are not mine to carry, or a controlling person who tries to tell me how to act, dress, or speak! I am an adult and have a mind of my own to know what is right, what is wrong, live responsibly for my decisions and the consequences of my actions whether positive or negative. This to me is knowing I am a healthy individual! I have been for many years! Your article showed me just how I have grown!


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