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Dysfunctional Communication: 6 Ways To Calm An Emotional Storm


Have you ever had to deal with someone who just wouldn’t stop yelling, screaming, and insulting you (or someone you know)? It isn’t an easy thing to cope with. In fact, it’s very humiliating, demeaning, and embarrassing. I work with a lot of families who display difficult patterns of behavior at home, in the community, and in my office. It isn’t easy to change a pattern of behavior that becomes ingrained in the relationship and communication style of the relationship.

What do you do when someone is so angry that they will go so far as to embarrass and humiliate you? I say get calm and “shut-down.”

This article will briefly discuss ways to deter an argument before it gets started. 

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Dysfunctional Communication: 6 Ways To Calm An Emotional Storm

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  1. Hi Tamara,
    I find it hard to stay calm and disengage at times–especially when it is someone I love being attacked and even more so if they are more vulnerable than the average person. It is strange for me admitting that because normally I am a very peaceful person, rarely get angry, hardly ever raise my voice etc.
    I forwarded this article to my brother tonight in hopes that it helps him to seek therapy. He got a great job recently after being out of work for over a year and is doing great at it. We are VERY pleased for him and proud of him for that! I just wish the alcoholism, mental health issues and anger issues would be resolved.
    My mom was recently diagnosed with skin cancer. Given her prior history of having had cancer, it concerns me and she just doesn’t deserve to be verbally abused or belittled, hung up on etc.

    • Hi Lori,
      Thanks for chiming in.

      I totally understand. I feel the same way. It is a challenge that will require multiple failures and lots of practice. From what you have mentioned in the past, you have been a strong defender of your mom against others in your family. I know it would be difficult for you to stay calm when your mom is being attacked. Same here! I want to fight for her. But I’ve learned that staying calm and using the strategies in the article I have been able to control most of my impulsive reactions when someone I care about or something I feel strongly about is being attacked.

      Sorry to hear about your mom. This is tough. She should not have to be ill and go through abuse. I do hope your brother finally realizes that he needs treatment.
      Take good care

 

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