4 thoughts on “Destructive Personalities: Can You Spot Them?

  • April 27, 2017 at 3:31 am

    Somehow, I missed seeing this fantastic article until now but I learned something new. I realized as I read that I too have that same general belief as the client you mentioned. I think I equate being myself, being genuine with needing to be “an open book!” I hate when I’ve sometimes shared too much too soon or else answered a question someone asked even though it felt intrusive simply because to not do so felt like I was being rude or impolite! I have gotten better with this but still have some work to do.
    Have you ever read “The Gift Of Fear”? It is by a guy named Gavin but I don’t recall his last name offhand except I think it begins with the letter “D.” It talks about paying attention to one’s “gut feeling” or intuition and that it can in some cases, save your life.

    • May 5, 2017 at 12:16 pm

      Hi Lori,
      So sorry I totally missed this comment.
      I think there is an element of normalcy to feeling this way. Our society also makes us feel as if we need to “play a role” or “be polite” in such as way that we internalize those beliefs and operate on that premise. I’m guilty of this also. It’s like we, as a society, are programmed to act this way.
      Thank you for the book title, I am on Barnes and Nobel now!!
      Paying attention to intuition is something I think we all could use a lesson in.

      Take care 🙂

      • May 10, 2017 at 3:57 am

        Hi Tamara,
        No worries, I know you are busy!
        I hope you were able to find the book I mentioned. There is another book I absolutely love (not about this specific topic but it is one that is a true story re:therapy and it really resonated with me) and it is called “A Shining Affliction” by Annie G. Rogers. Have you ever read it?
        Lots happening here lately. My niece’s boyfriend’s father is missing and has been since Saturday night. I may email a quick update.

      • May 10, 2017 at 2:22 pm

        Hi Lori,
        Thank you. I with check into that one also.

        So sorry to hear about your niece’s father. That’s never easy. Please let me know if I can help.

        Take care


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