4 thoughts on “Overcoming Judgmental Attitudes: 4 Truths About Judging

  • May 29, 2013 at 12:07 pm

    Worth the read for your grandmother’s comment: ‘She would say: “while you have 1 finger pointing at me, there are 10 thousand pointing back at you.”’

    When I catch myself sounding self-righteous, I try to stop and take heed of what I am feeling at that moment – probably unsure, our of control or challenged in some way, that makes me want to transfer all my insecurity baggage to someone else. It’s also usually someone else’s voice I can hear(mom!). Goes back to do you want to be right or be happy?

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    • May 29, 2013 at 12:33 pm

      Hi there:
      Thanks for your comment.

      Believe it or not, I used to laugh at my grandmother’s saying and ignore it! As I got older, I realized there might be some wisdom in it. 😉
      I appreciate your honesty about self-righteous behavior. I have to catch myself as well, we all do! I think the big problem comes in when we start judging everyone and criticizing because we think we’re better. Humans are flawed, no one is perfect!

      Maybe in the future I will discuss how judgmental adults (parents, grandparents, teachers, etc.) can influence our own view of the world and lead to us judging others in the same way.

      All the best to you (stay cool in this heat!)

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  • May 30, 2013 at 10:41 am

    When I read this I thought of the book “Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense” and one of the points is the speaker revealing so much even as they were passive-aggressively making accusations. I loved your summary and it’s a good reminder to folks that can’t understand why they are so angry after someone makes “helpful” comments.

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    • May 30, 2013 at 12:59 pm

      Hi Malterre:
      Thank you for your kind comments. I’m glad the article was useful. 🙂
      I will certainly have to check out this book. We all can learn a pointer or two in this area!
      All the best

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