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10 Answers To Give Meaning To Your Thanksgiving

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How do you feel around this time of year? Are you irritable, resistant, and uncomfortable? Are you joyous, pleasant, or at peace? For many of us, Thanksgiving is a holiday that either brings you joy and happiness or agitation and unhappiness. Thanksgiving is the type of holiday that can truly depress you and make you anxious. The challenges of family gatherings, getting along with disliked...
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Adult Mental Health

9 Truths About Borderline Personality Disorder

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Do you know someone who is struggling with intense emotions, rage or anger, emotional lability, interpersonal conflict, unstable social or family relationships, and poor self-image? If so, perhaps you are dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). BPD is a mental health condition that affects all facets of a sufferer's life. Sadly, although BPD has become less stigmatized over time (especially with Dr. Marsha Linehan and many other experts...
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Communication

Men and Depression: 7 Signs and How To Help

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Do you know a man who seems depressed? What are his symptoms? Does he talk to you about it?

Men and depression simply don't mix in a male-dominated world that is characterized by unrealistic displays of strength, power, and social prowess. For men, depression is simply a "female" thing that is often tied to estrogen and all the other female specific hormones and emotions.

The...
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Communication

Understanding Trauma and the Cycle of Abuse

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Have you ever heard of the Cycle of Abuse? What about Traumatic Bonding? If not, this article is for you. One of the things I find myself doing in my practice with families is providing what mental health professionals call "psycho-education." Psycho-education is education about a topic related to psychology such as relationships, mental illness, diagnosis, trauma or abuse, etc. So many of us can...
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Communication

Emotional Attachment: 5 Thoughts of The Needy Person

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Do you know someone who struggles with emotional attachment? Someone who struggles with becoming emotionally attached too soon or too fast? What about someone who struggles with putting up appropriate boundaries for fear of losing a person, angering a person, or expressing their own needs? Emotional abuse and bondage may be more prevalent than we all think. You can Google the term "relationships" and find multiple topics on co-dependency,...
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Communication

10 Things You Should Do With Someone Who Suffers Delusions

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Do you know someone who struggles with delusional thoughts? A delusion is defined as a belief, that is strongly held to be true, despite evidence to the contrary. It is a fixed and pervasive way of thinking that is not easily derailed by logic. For many people attempting to cope with loved ones who have delusional thoughts, it can be extremely difficult to communicate with the person...
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Family

7 Consequences of Having an Emotionally Detached Parent

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Do you know an emotionally avoidant and detached parent/guardian? If so, what makes that person so emotionally unavailable? Is it a mental illness, personality disorder, or something else such as a job, career goal, or educational endeavor? Whatever it is, having an emotionally unavailable parent or guardian can lead to a lifelong journey of unstable or failed relationships, emotional neediness, empty voids, identity confusion, poor attachment to others,...
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Child & Adolescent Mental Health

Traumatic Bonding: 9 Signs You Are Bonded To The Abuser

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Abuse. What does that word mean to you? After giving a presentation at a conference, in 2014, of parents and families who have lived through years of abuse, I recognized that not many people understood the full definition of abuse. Some families either minimized the term (made the term sound better than it should sound) or magnified the term (made it sound much worse than...
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Caregivers

5 Possible Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

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What comes to mind when you hear the term Borderline Personality Disorder? For many people who are unfamiliar with the disorder, split personality is often a common misconception. Split personality refers to a personality that is not always one way, but often changes in intensity and duration in such a way that it is impossible to predict when the person will switch up. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is...
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