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Shaping Experiences: “What Has Caused My Trauma?”

Traumatic childhoodShaping experiences are experiences that we have as we go through life.

For children shaping experiences determine who they are likely to become as they grow older.

If these shaping experiences are traumatic or involve some kind of abuse, it is likely that the shaping experience will lead to a lifetime of heartache, trial and error, or emotional and psychological voids.

In this video, I discuss what these shaping experiences are.

Shaping experiences are experiences that can either make or break us. They may have one time or they may happen on multiple occasions. Either way, if the shaping experience is negative we are likely to respond a certain way which becomes apart of our overall make-up.

For example, the shaping experience of having a substance abusing father and domestic violence in the home can result in the child developing a fear of close relationships and intimacy with other adults. This fear can then lead to fear of abandonment as an adult and avoidance behaviors. Some children also begin abusing drugs and alcohol or engaging in risky behaviors as their parent(s) did.

Shaping experiences aren’t easy to overcome because it’s all we know growing up. It isn’t until we become adults that we are fully able to see how our shaping experiences have molded us.


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Shaping Experiences: “What Has Caused My Trauma?”

Támara Hill, MS, NCC, CCTP, LPC

Támara Hill, MS, NCC, CCTP, LPC, is a licensed therapist and internationally certified trauma professional, in private practice, who specializes in working with children and adolescents who suffer from mood disorders, trauma, and disruptive behavioral disorders. She also provides international consultations and works with some young and older adults struggling with grief & loss or life transitions. Hill strives to help clients to realize and actualize their strengths in their home environments and in their relationships within the community. She credits her career passion to a “divine calling” and is internationally recognized for corresponding literary works as well as appearances on radio and other media platforms. She is an author, family consultant, Keynote speaker, and founder of Anchored Child & Family Counseling. Visit her at Anchored-In-Knowledge or Twitter and Youtube Youtube If you are interested in scheduling a telehealth family consultation, feel free to let me know.

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Hill, T. (2020). Shaping Experiences: “What Has Caused My Trauma?”. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 3, 2020, from


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