For children shaping experiences determine who they are likely to become as they grow older.
If these shaping experiences are traumatic or involve some kind of abuse, it is likely that the shaping experience will lead to a lifetime of heartache, trial and error, or emotional and psychological voids.
In this video, I discuss what these shaping experiences are.
Shaping experiences are experiences that can either make or break us. They may have one time or they may happen on multiple occasions. Either way, if the shaping experience is negative we are likely to respond a certain way which becomes apart of our overall make-up.
For example, the shaping experience of having a substance abusing father and domestic violence in the home can result in the child developing a fear of close relationships and intimacy with other adults. This fear can then lead to fear of abandonment as an adult and avoidance behaviors. Some children also begin abusing drugs and alcohol or engaging in risky behaviors as their parent(s) did.
Shaping experiences aren’t easy to overcome because it’s all we know growing up. It isn’t until we become adults that we are fully able to see how our shaping experiences have molded us.
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