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Healing From Traumatic Family Narcissism

control photoDo you feel that you have been the victim of narcissism in your family?

What kind of narcissist do you feel you have dealt with?

Most people describe covert (vulnerable) narcissists as being one of the most detrimental forces in their lives because of the passive-aggressive nature and behavior of this type of narcissist.

In this article (and video) I discuss this concept a bit future and offer tips on how to heal from this kind of family.

Narcissists can make you feel trapped, hence the photo attached to this article. Their behaviors, their words, and their patterns are so complex and emotionally overwhelming that you could begin to feel as if you are never going to “escape” them. Narcissists develop confidence from seeing your weaknesses and from experiencing the fear and uncertainty you may have around your relationship with them. It’s a “sick” and twisted adrenaline rush for the narcissist.

As a result,  you may feel completely unable to think your way out of the family relationship and develop the courage and strength needed to set healthy boundaries. Tired and helpless to escape, you settle for less than your best.

Thankfully there are practical ways to escape your situation. The most significant part of escape is working with your mind and helping yourself “prepare” for the escape. You also need to ensure you are stable enough to walk away completely and maintain the boundary.

When I do speaking events or see new clients in my office, I often offer a few tips that can be used right away in the persons life. In the video below, I offer a discussion on how to utilize these steps and think through them. Some of the steps include:


  • Understand the motive: You may not be able to understand the complete motive but you’ll want to have some idea. Understanding motive can change how you view the situation as a whole and give you the strength needed to walk away.


  • Take a concrete course of action: Set out to make a stand and make some firm decisions. Weigh the pros and cons.

Reach Out and watch:

  • Look for support: You want to have someone in your corner who gets you. Without this, you may begin to feel weak and vulnerable without this support.


What has been your experience with narcissism in your family? If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or confused in your situation, I encourage you to build yourself up on knowledge. The more you know, the less likely you will be fooled by this sneaky personality.


I wish you well

Healing From Traumatic Family Narcissism

Támara Hill, MS, NCC, CCTP, LPC

Támara Hill, MS, NCC, CCTP, LPC, is a licensed therapist and internationally certified trauma professional, in private practice, who specializes in working with children and adolescents who suffer from mood disorders, trauma, and disruptive behavioral disorders. She also provides international consultations and works with some young and older adults struggling with grief & loss or life transitions. Hill strives to help clients to realize and actualize their strengths in their home environments and in their relationships within the community. She credits her career passion to a “divine calling” and is internationally recognized for corresponding literary works as well as appearances on radio and other media platforms. She is an author, family consultant, Keynote speaker, and founder of Anchored Child & Family Counseling. Visit her at Anchored-In-Knowledge or Twitter and Youtube Youtube If you are interested in scheduling a telehealth family consultation, feel free to let me know.

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Hill, T. (2019). Healing From Traumatic Family Narcissism. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 29, 2020, from


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